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Bethella
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Destination Wedding and Registries
So my FI and I are doing a destination wedding to Las Vegas and we originally did not intend on registering anywhere. We figure that it would be a huge gift in itself for those of our friends and family that can be there with us, and I feel it would be in poor taste to have one on top of asking people to spend a lot of money just to show up.
However, a month or so ago, I went to a wedding show and there were a few representatives there saying that it would be a good idea to register somewhere, even though the wedding won't be in the country, because people will want to get us gifts. Since then, I have been on the fence about the whole thing. On one hand, what these people said made sense; i.e. to give my family and friends and idea about what we'd like so they're not left in the dark and possibly end up getting something that neither my FI and I need. On the other hand, were they just saying that so I would register with them? And, most importantly, I don't want to look like I'm all 'gimme-gimme-gimme' and greedy. What are people's take on this situation?
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Re: Destination Wedding and Registries
[QUOTE]Are you inviting guests to the wedding or are you eloping?
Posted by Benny618[/QUOTE]
<div>Yep, we are inviting people. I just don't want to look greedy by having a registry, you know? On top of that, my FI and I already live together so we have a lot of the things that people would ask for... then again, it would be nice to upgrade a couple of our smaller kitchen electronics <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-laughing.gif" border="0" alt="Laughing" title="Laughing" /></div>
If you decide not to register, I'm sure most guests still gave cards with money. Most of our guests gave us gift cards or money, we had a couple of random gifts. So I guess if you want to try to avoid some of the random gifts, you could do a smallish registry to give your guests an idea of what you like and need.
[QUOTE]So my FI and I are doing a destination wedding to Las Vegas and we originally did not intend on registering anywhere. We figure that it would be a huge gift in itself for those of our friends and family that can be there with us, and I feel it would be in poor taste to have one on top of asking people to spend a lot of money just to show up.<strong> However, a month or so ago, I went to a wedding show and there were a few representatives there saying that it would be a good idea to register somewhere, even though the wedding won't be in the country, because people will want to get us gifts. </strong>Since then, I have been on the fence about the whole thing. On one hand, what these people said made sense; i.e. to give my family and friends and idea about what we'd like so they're not left in the dark and possibly end up getting something that neither my FI and I need. On the other hand, were they just saying that so I would register with them? And, most importantly, I don't want to look like I'm all 'gimme-gimme-gimme' and greedy. What are people's take on this situation?
Posted by Bethella[/QUOTE]
That's because they were trying to sell you something or get you to register at their store.
We are having a destination wedding and have a small registry. People wanted to get us gifts even if they aren't coming. We're also having an "at home reception" (our actual wedding is immediate family only) so we registered in case someone wants to get us something (although we're not expecting it)
[QUOTE]You can do a honeymoon registry. This will give guests a chance to gift you things to do in Vegas, maybe even as a group. For instance, a night on the town - purchased through your honeymoon registry allows them to buy you dinner with out a big deal about who is paying while you are all out. Guests can give a gift and watch you enjoy!
Posted by brookethebride1[/QUOTE]
<div>Ick! Please skip this awful advice. Honeymoon and other cash registries are very rude an inappropriate.</div><div>
</div><div>I agree with the sane PPs. A small registry for guests that want to give a physical gift is fine. Remember, a registry is not asking for gifts, it's just guidance for people that want it. Guests that don't want to buy a gift won't ask about the registry, and won't even need to know it exists. </div>
I can't bold from my phone... But "Most of us our use to paying service/handling fees"? I hope your registry isn't some knockoff site that can't communicate properly in written English.