BM jobs/duties

AngB1230 · July 2012

what are you having your MOH and BM help out with the day of?

CowgirlK39 · July 2012

I have very little contact with any of them lately and had the hardest time getting them to even order dresses. No one has expressed any interest in helping, so I didn't bother to ask anyone for help.

I watched my cousin's wedding and how her MOH and a few other BMs (she had a lot of them) were helping her hold things, bustle, gather people, etc. I was jealous because I know mine won't do any of that. I think that, even though they say a bride is not a porcelain doll, she still needs help. I think that BMs are especially helpful when it comes to photos. My cousin's MOH was always adjusting her train, holding her flowers, and grabbing people for certain photos. I'd like mine to do that but I'm sure they probably won't.

AngB1230 · July 2012

oh geez! well i cant get my one bm to order her dress. but i kinda have to deal with it because she is doing hair and makeup...but why arent your bm's talking to you or wanting to help you out?

QueerFemme · July 2012

My BMs are getting ready with me. that's it. I'm hiring someone to help out with anything else we need done.

CowgirlK39 · July 2012

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[QUOTE]oh geez! well i cant get my one bm to order her dress. but i kinda have to deal with it because she is doing hair and makeup...but why arent your bm's talking to you or wanting to help you out?
Posted by AngB1230[/QUOTE]

They are all OOT and very busy with their lives. I'm the first of any of my friends to get married so no one is really on the same page as me life-wise. My MOH was a huge help when she lived here but she moved last month and is a doctor so she's super busy. Why won't your BM order her dress? Is she almost outta time??

Kello4221 · July 2012

We are going to get ready together - so their main job is to keep my nerves in check. But I'll expect help with the bustle and on potty breaks in my dress.

I'll have close family help with some small things that perhaps your bridesmaids could help with. My younger cousins will hand out bubbles for after the ceremony. I plan to ask their Mom to put the extra bubbles and wedding programs in her car that I'll get back some other day. Also, I'll have a family member let the reception staff load gifts in their car. The groomsman will be responsible for handing out some of the final vendor payments too. But hopefully most of the day will just be about enjoying it!

jessa1228 · July 2012

They're going to help me get ready. I'm sure my MOH is going to want to run interference for me (aka taking my phone from me) because she knows how attached I am to it, haha. But I'm not going to have like a list of things for them to do. I really just want them there with me.

volleygurl0306 · July 2012

I think I'm mainly going to rely on them to help me get ready, bustle, and go to the bathroom. It would be great if a few of them helped gather people for pictures but only a few of them know all the family on my side. They don't know FI's family so we'd have to use a GM for that. My friends are like Cowgirls in some instances where since I'm first to get married they don't always know how much goes into it so I don't want to rely on them too much since this is their first rodeo and don't want them to be overwhelmed. I also want them to enjoy themselves.

smartlypretty · July 2012

Mine are going to get ready with me that morning. I'm going to have a catered lunch and pay for them all to get their hair done so I'm pretty stoked about this. I have a Day of Coordinator, a Brides Attendant, and a Grooms Attendant (all vendors), so I can just call those people. I was MOH in a wedding last year and I guess I was the train fluffer, gown bustler, sometimes purse holder, but I don't really consider those jobs, just helping my friend out. I'm sure mine girls will do the same for me.

akbrown19 · July 2012

Just a suggestion for those having difficulty with BMs and getting help - some people don't really like the idea of weddings being about doling out jobs. BUT having said that, a lot of times moms are the perfect people for those jobs! I know my mom, stepmom and FMIL would love to be the go-to person for something specific, those are the people (in my life anyway) who really want to contribute and are always asking for something they can do. Take advantage of the people who do offer help!

BMcLeodTeam · July 2012

I have a WC so I'm not too worried about 'duties'.
I have a friend who is an event planner that is setting up our reception area, we might as a group swing over to help her out a bit if we have time (all BMs and I). I know the one BM is setting up the cake table, but that's because she's a cake baker and is making my cake...

My sister will be arranging my train when we're during the ceremony. Not because I asked, but because she's a fashion designer who has altered/remade my mother's dress and wants to make sure it 'looks right'. Its her thing lol

Besides that their duties are to have fun and celebrate with me

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