My cousin is hosting a bridal shower for me. She asked for a guest list and I included my mom, bridesmaids, FMIL, and some close female friends/family members (all from my side of the family. FH has a very small family, with no relatives who live nearby. In fact, I haven't met most of his extended family--he and his mom talk to them occasionally but visits don't happen very often.)
However, my FMIL has mentioned a couple of times that she wants to host a separate shower for me and only invite women from her side of the family. I think it's kind of her to offer, but she told me who she'd like to invite and I haven't met any of them before!
So my question is, would it appear gift-grabby for her to throw a shower for me and invite members of her family who I've never met? I thought showers were supposed to be for your closest friends/family members. I'm worried those relatives will get a shower invitation and interpret it as just a request for gifts, especially since the majority of them live far away and likely wouldn't be able to attend. (They are all invited to the wedding though, by the way.)
What should I do? Should I not say anything and graciously accept this shower, even if it makes me feel a little awkward? I would like to meet my FH's extended family, but asking them to attend a shower in my honor when they've never met me seems a bit strange.