OK ladies... how many of you are having your future SILs or FMIL at your bachelorette party? If you are, did you gladly invite them or did they invite themselves?
I am BEYOND frustrated right now!! Background... FI has two sisters and his brother got married on a cruiseship almost a year ago with 2 weeks notice, so no family got to go. (2 sisters didn't really approve of this marriage in the first place and constantly talk trash about her) All of my FSILs are not only older than me (+4, +9, +11 years) but are extremely opininated and think their sh* don't stink!
Anyway, over Christmas, FI's sisters asked me when the bachelorette party was... I said I haven't been planning it but I think in February. C said "B, we're not invited" and I managed to squeeze out of that one. Right around the same conversation, it was brought up that they don't see us enough and FI and I don't make enough effort to see them. Ya know, FI used to be the fun uncle that came around all the time (yes, you are correct... he was in high school/ college, single, lived within 20 minutes of you, and didn't have a JOB).... so I managed to stay afloat and explain why it's hard for us to drive over an hour to see them as often as they'd like... especially with our work schedules and wedding planning. After leaving the next day, I thought the dialogue may have helped our case and somehow we may have actually been able to explain ourselves better.
Fast forward to tonight...... FI's brother and BIL called from his mom's house asking questions about the bachelor party that they have yet to plan. It quickly became apparent that FI's sister, SIL, and mom were also in the room. I then heard through the phone "Oh and B wanted to know if they (meaning 3 FSILs AND MOTHER) were all invited to Caitlin's bach party"....... FI said "well it's going to be several hours away and they're staying at a casino so she figured you wouldn't want to go"... aughhhh you don't even act like you like me, why would you want to come to my bachelorette party?? You each have 3 kids and act like Debbie Downers 90% of your life so.. hmm.. no thanks!!
I talked it over with FI and asked him to call back and suggest that maybe we could do a girls night the night before or after my shower. That way we could still do something fun but it'll be more local and we could actually have the opportunity to bond.. just us girls. No husbands, no kids. But no, calling them actually caused more damage because they complained that they weren't going to be invited to "the fun party" but they had to plan a boring get together? and laughed.
Augh, I'm over it... and so is FI. We were both fuming earlier and the only two things that I decided would make me feel better would be to pour a nice big glass of wine & vent on here. This whole story probably makes no sense but man I feel so much better just getting it all off my chest. I kind of don't want them to be at my shower anymore (as it's been mentioned a lot on here... it's meant to be my close-knit group of friends and family) but I'm sure I'll cool off by.
Ahhhh thanks ladies. end vent!!
