So our RSVP deadline for our wedding is today. There are quite a few people who have expressed that they plan to attend the wedding, but have never sent in their RSVP indicating how many plan to attend. There could be some RSVP’s trickling in the next few days, but I doubt it. Do we assume that these people are going to attend or do we assume they were only being nice and said they would attend, but never planned on it? Is it in bad taste to call and ask if they plan to join us? The only reason I’m concerned is that the price per person is not cheap and I’d really like to know how many people really will be there. I’m just so frustrated with some of the people since many are the FH’s family and they just don’t seem to understand the importance of knowing final guest counts…or that RSVP-ing is sometimes necessary. My MOH is hosting our couple’s shower and asked that people call with regrets only, no one has called (yay), but then I think about the FH’s family and their lack of RSVP-ing skills and I’m concerned that my MOH (also my sister) will plan for twice the amount of people that will actually show up. I hate making assumptions, but I also hate making people feel uncomfortable or obligated in someway to attend by calling. I’ve pestered the FH about it, but that only goes so far. :::SIGH::: And I thought I was stressed before. Anyone else dealing with this and know the best way to go about this?