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Should I Just wait?

Josette Walker To BeJosette Walker To Be member
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We have just be handed some serious debt and we were already planning on having a budget wedding. We have one of two options, push back our wedding for another year, or maybe not having the wedding we originally wanted. A year already seems like a long time away, two years feels like eternity!  But even if we settle on something less, we would still have to tighten the reins on our living expenses way more than we wanted to. We were spoiled enough to have the pleasure of  dinner and a movie once a week, and we already given that up for our wedding savings. Should i just wait?
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_should-just-wait?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:7178bb8a-95d4-4b2b-970a-94ae85a22ab2Post:cc9aeacb-4ee1-4ca4-b29c-fe79c97d7827">Should I Just wait?</a>:
    [QUOTE]We have just be handed some serious debt and we were already planning on having a budget wedding. We have one of two options, push back our wedding for another year, or maybe not having the wedding we originally wanted. A year already seems like a long time away, two years feels like eternity!  But even if we settle on something less, we would still have to tighten the reins on our living expenses way more than we wanted to. We were spoiled enough to have the pleasure of  dinner and a movie once a week, and we already given that up for our wedding savings. Should i just wait?
    Posted by Josette Walker To Be[/QUOTE]

    This really depends on you and what's more important to you - being married sooner, or having the wedding you want.  All you *need* for a wedding is a marriage license and an officiant, and the latter you can get free via internet ordination. 

    But, generally speaking, if dinner and a movie once/week represents the entire total of your discretionary income, then yes, you probably have bigger issues in your life that indicate marriage is not what you should be thinking about at this time.

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  • Josette Walker To BeJosette Walker To Be member
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    edited December 2011

    Just because I didnt disclose everything Ive given up to save for my wedding doesnt mean that I have issues, so excuse me for being so blunt, but maybe your not exactly the person i was branching out to here. I thought these message boards were supposed to supportive, not judgemental.

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  • jojobrnjojobrn member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_should-just-wait?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:7178bb8a-95d4-4b2b-970a-94ae85a22ab2Post:59238adf-f35c-4a1c-b932-0c09788e58d9">Re: Should I Just wait?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just because I didnt disclose everything Ive given up to save for my wedding doesnt mean that I have issues, so excuse me for being so blunt, but maybe your not exactly the person i was branching out to here. I thought these message boards were supposed to supportive, not judgemental.
    Posted by Josette Walker To Be[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>That wasn't judgmental, based on the information you provided it is the honest truth. If you have to completely cut out all discretionary spending in order to save for your wedding and you STILL aren't going to be able to save enough, then you need to reevaluate somewhere. Either find another job and increase your saving, continue to wait, or cut your planned budget. </div>
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  • loop0406loop0406 member
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    edited December 2011
    We had originally planned to get married 09/18/10 (in 9 days) and had everything booked, because FI's father ended up in coma in July, we postponed wedding for 1 year, to 09/17/11. At 1st, I was sad but now we're able to save more, not just for honeymoon expenses but also new house, furniture, etc that we will have once we get married.

    I suggest you wait in order to have money saved, not just for wedding but for other expenses that might arise, it's always good to have emergency fund too. A wedding shouldn't throw a couple into debt, I don't think it's smart or worth it.

    If you can't have the wedding of your dreams and don't want to wait 1-2 years, I suggest having a smaller wedding or destination wedding. Weddings don't have to be super expensive, you could DIY invitations, centerpieces, STDs, favors.
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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    edited December 2011
    How does one get handed serious debt?
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_should-just-wait?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:7178bb8a-95d4-4b2b-970a-94ae85a22ab2Post:97fa453a-1d69-46b0-8a32-84b6f8d34256">Re: Should I Just wait?</a>:
    [QUOTE]How does one get handed serious debt?
    Posted by TheDuckis[/QUOTE]


    umm...guess you've never met ootdaughter ;)
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  • Butter CookieButter Cookie member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_should-just-wait?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:7178bb8a-95d4-4b2b-970a-94ae85a22ab2Post:89a9612c-9f77-44d8-a20c-6f9c9600a4dd">Re: Should I Just wait?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Should I Just wait? : umm...guess you've never met ootdaughter ;)
    Posted by ootmother2[/QUOTE]


    ::snort::

    You know, you could tell her "no"
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  • HeffalumpHeffalump member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_should-just-wait?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:7178bb8a-95d4-4b2b-970a-94ae85a22ab2Post:59238adf-f35c-4a1c-b932-0c09788e58d9">Re: Should I Just wait?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just because I didnt disclose everything Ive given up to save for my wedding doesnt mean that I have issues, so excuse me for being so blunt, but maybe your not exactly the person i was branching out to here. I thought these message boards were supposed to supportive, not judgemental.
    Posted by Josette Walker To Be[/QUOTE]
    I was sympathetic to your first post, though concerned about your priorities (a party) in light of your apparently shaky financial situation.  You received good advice, it's a shame you don't seem mature enough to actually consider it.
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