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Thoughts on Brides mom hosting casual rehearsal dinner

wedmom2wedmom2
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My daughter really wants a casual " cook out" type rehearsal dinner at our house.( Groom's family lives over an hour away- so that is why they can't host) I was up for it, but people keep saying to me " Are You Crazy?" That is too much stress on the night before your daughter's wedding. So now I am re-thinking, Am I crazy? The grooms mom has offered to pay for alternate arrangements in the area- i.e. a restaraunt.
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Re: Thoughts on Brides mom hosting casual rehearsal dinner

  • wedmom2wedmom2
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    edited December 2011
    Wedding is June 2012
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  • MairePoppyMairePoppy mod
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    edited December 2011
    You mentioned that the groom's mom offered to pay for dinner at a restaurant. Do you think she would like to cohost the bbq at your home? More importantly, is your daughter and FSIL willing to help with the party? If they are, and you're a fairly easygoing host, who can keep the menu simple, you can do it.

    I can handle hamburgers, hotdogs, potato salad and tossed salad on paper plates, easy enough. But anything more complicated than that might be a problem the night before my daughter's wedding. I want to be able to relax and enjoy the guests.
                       
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  • Muffin'sMomMuffin'sMom
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_pre-wedding-parties_thoughts-brides-mom-hosting-casual-rehearsal-dinner?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:32Discussion:8b6982a4-f90d-4e62-ac8e-aa201d524120Post:ab7b3cdf-03a4-483c-a065-769a61000bce">Re: Thoughts on Brides mom hosting casual rehearsal dinner</a>:
    [QUOTE]You mentioned that the groom's mom offered to pay for dinner at a restaurant. Do you think she would like to cohost the bbq at your home? More importantly, is your daughter and FSIL willing to help with the party? If they are, and you're a fairly easygoing host, who can keep the menu simple, you can do it. I can handle hamburgers, hotdogs, potato salad and tossed salad on paper plates, easy enough. But anything more complicated than that might be a problem the night before my daughter's wedding. I want to be able to relax and enjoy the guests.
    Posted by MairePoppy[/QUOTE]

    This.  You can buy all of those things ready made.  If FMIL is willing to come early and set up, that's doable for me.  If she wants her grandmothers favorite recipie that has 60 ingredients, 12 steps and a big finish...then no.
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  • twinkiecc87twinkiecc87 member
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    edited December 2011
    A lot of poeple have the rehersal dinner 2 days prior to the wedding. If the wedding is on a Saturday, RD would be on the Thursday prior. Takes a lot of stress out of the day prior.. that should be a day to relax/get massage, ect... Not to worry about entertaining.. hope that helps! Good luck
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  • HockeyFan4HockeyFan4 member
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    edited December 2011
    hahaha I thought this was my mom posting this at first :)

    we are doing a casual bbq the day before our wedding at my mom's house.  My FMIL and I will go shopping the day or two before and stock up the food at my parents house.  we are having it around 1 or 2pm though...so we should be done relatively early :)
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  • MikeF&SarahCMikeF&SarahC member
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    My parent's will be hosting our Rehearsal dinner as FI's family is from Canada and we want it to be small and relaxed so we're having it out my parent's house and keeping it very simple :)
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    I would do the casual rehearsal dinner, doesn't sound like she expects too much. But I would also allow his parents to help so you are not left to put everything together that night. Especially since his parents will be there! 
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  • wedmom2wedmom2
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks to all for your thoughts. We are definately doing the rehearsal dinner at our house! Now next question. It is an early June wedding and we plan for 40-50 people at the rehearsal. Do we need to get a tent? Our home is medium sized but inside could not seat 50 in one place.We have a substantial deck and then a driveway that has a basketball court, so the tent could go on the driveway easily, just not sure if it is necessary. Do we need to plan for a place were everyone sits down together or is it OK to sit in various places like the deck the patio and the yard? 
    Thanks again for all  your advce!
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