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Out Of Town Bride

katewandmarkjkatewandmarkj member
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We're getting married in our hometown in the midwest but we live on the east coast. It would be extremely helpful to have people buying off the registry select the 'ship to couple' option as opposed to shipping it to themselves and then bringing the gift (since so many people shop online). Is there a good way we can put it out there that we're going to have trouble getting everything back?

We can ship what we do get, but people often think it's more proper to bring the gift instead of sending it to someone's home... however, in our case, it's definitely easier the other way around.

What should I do?

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  • GeauxTigers17GeauxTigers17 member
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    Just for the record, it's sending the gift before or after the wedding that's traditional/proper. I'd never heard of people bringing presents to a wedding until I joined the knot- it would be a major faux pas here. I've never even seen a gift table at a wedding. Maybe you'll get lucky and the overwhelming majority of your guests will go ahead and send it to you.
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  • jagore08jagore08 member
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    We were married in FL (live in CA) and our guests just figured it out.  We only had a couple of people bring a physical gift to the wedding and we just shipped it ourselves.  It wasn't a big deal.
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  • AdeleDazeemAdeleDazeem member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_registering-gifts_out-of-town-bride?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:34Discussion:539ebceb-d9d1-45e7-b31f-62f2b1180a50Post:3874ab83-d32e-4756-a329-0634eb52a30a">Re: Out Of Town Bride</a>:
    [QUOTE]People know the option exists and will do so if they want to pay for the shipping, but you cannot dictate or even recommend that they do such.  I don't live near where my wedding was, but we were able to drive back a number of the presents and ship the rest.  It's a hassle, but the burden should be on the bride and groom to get the presents home - not on the guests. 
    Posted by mcskatcat[/QUOTE]

    This exactly.

    It's a little unfair to say to your guests "Yay!  You spent money on a gift for me, now please spend more to have it shipped to me so I don't have to pay to do so."  You know?

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  • MilitaryBride2BeMilitaryBride2Be
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    DH and I were married in MN and live in Las Vegas, 99% of our guests figured it out on their own and shipped them to us. We did get a lot of cards at the wedding but only a few presents which were easy to ship.
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