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TiffanyT816TiffanyT816
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for the first time ever, today I heard of someone who is engaged and her and her FI will both be changing their last names to something completely different as they are not close to their families and his father has been estranged his whole life.

Would anyone else do this? Or have you heard of this? My FI was very interested in the idea as he has never met his father...
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  • starrynight84starrynight84 member
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    I've heard of it before. If thats what the couple wants, I think it's absolutely fine.
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  • wrigleyvillewrigleyville member
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    I've heard of it. I don't have any strong feelings one way or the other. I actually think it would be pretty cool to choose whatever last name you want.
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  • melb2013melb2013 member
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    I've heard of this.  I think it's fine if that's what you want to do.  Neither one of us will be changing out names.

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  • emeejeeayenemeejeeayen member
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    That would be a nightmare with my fiance. He'd want Skywalker or Wayne or Baggins. 

    In other only-related-because-it's-about-names news, his last name starts with F and mine starts with T. He recently came up with the genius suggestion that we name one of our future children a first name with W and give them my last name as a middle name so their initials could be WTF. HOW COOL IS THAT?! Not cool at all.

    (Okay, I giggled a little.)


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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    A girl on my local board did that and chose a completely different last name for the two of them, and she said she knew of someone else who found a way to blend the bride's last name and the groom's last name.  Something like the bride's last name was Jacobsen and the groom's last name was Hackman, and they both took Jackman as their last name.

    A guy in my college class changed his name before the wedding to his stepdad's last name, because he hated his father and he hated that his father prevented him from having his stepdad's last name all along.  And then when he married his girlfriend, she changed her last name to his stepdad's last name to match her groom.

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  • Avion22Avion22 member
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    This is becoming more common.  Some grooms even opt to take the bride's last name.   

    In most states it's pretty easy for a bride to change HER name, but this might not always be the case for the groom.  It might also be challenging for the bride to change her name to something other than her husband's name (in the case where both choose a new name).  In some places it seems to be pretty easy, but in others in might require more paperwork.  I would recommend that anyone considering doing this research their state's laws on name changes.   Regardless, anyone can request a legal name change at any time for any reason -- it may involve going before a judge, paying fees, doing a lot of paperwork, etc, but it's always possible.
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  • BostonGIrl4732BostonGIrl4732 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_name-change-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:53e9a463-e0c4-4f22-a50c-66101da65ba5Post:e4487996-77a7-4834-ac41-71d1662badb9">Re: Name Change</a>:
    [QUOTE]That would be a nightmare with my fiance. He'd want Skywalker or Wayne or Baggins.  In other only-related-because-it's-about-names news, his last name starts with F and mine starts with T. He recently came up with the genius suggestion that we name one of our future children a first name with W and give them my last name as a middle name so their initials could be WTF. HOW COOL IS THAT?! Not cool at all. (Okay, I giggled a little.)
    Posted by emeejeeayen[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>My boss's initals are WTF.  I giggled too!</div><div>
    </div><div>My FI is way too attached to his name to change it to something else.  Me, not so much.  I'll be taking his but it really wouldn't matter to me if he wanted to pick out a last name together.</div>
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  • TiffanyT816TiffanyT816
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    Thanks for the responses! We'll see if it's something he wants to go with. I find it interesting that he doesn't want to change it to his mom's maiden last name or even his step-dad's last name (which he went with in high school).

    TBH I'm completely OK with changing it. My last name is from my biological father whom I never met either and my entire family has my step-dad's last name.

    It will be interesting to see how it ends up...
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  • kaos16kaos16 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_name-change-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:53e9a463-e0c4-4f22-a50c-66101da65ba5Post:7bec2de6-6714-4982-bec3-42e0289975e7">Re: Name Change</a>:
    [QUOTE]This is becoming more common.  Some grooms even opt to take the bride's last name.    In most states it's pretty easy for a bride to change HER name, but this might not always be the case for the groom.  It might also be challenging for the bride to change her name to something other than her husband's name (in the case where both choose a new name).  In some places it seems to be pretty easy, but in others in might require more paperwork.  I would recommend that anyone considering doing this research their state's laws on name changes.   Regardless, anyone can request a legal name change at any time for any reason -- it may involve going before a judge, paying fees, doing a lot of paperwork, etc, but it's always possible.
    Posted by Avion22[/QUOTE]

    I wonder if it would be easier for the groom to go through the legal process pre-wedding, then the bride could just take the groom's new name after the wedding.
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  • TiffanyT816TiffanyT816
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_name-change-4?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:53e9a463-e0c4-4f22-a50c-66101da65ba5Post:0aa99735-7f2e-4406-b72d-c85e039da7b8">Re: Name Change</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Name Change : I wonder if it would be easier for the groom to go through the legal process pre-wedding, then the bride could just take the groom's new name after the wedding.
    Posted by kaos16[/QUOTE]

    That's what I suggested to FI, as well.
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