Seating question

cadamus · September 2012

Hey ladies! I have a quick question for you. I have been to 2 weddings in the last month. One wedding had the sweet heart table and then other wedding had the bridal front table. I see the pros and cons of both ideas. but im not a big fan of ppl watching me eat. I was thinking about having the head table be me, my fi and then the maid of honor and best man. And then the rest of the bridal party sit with their dates or family. since most of our bridal party is family. What do you ladies think???

NikishaMcFall · September 2012

I'm going to sit at a table with FI and our parents and my sister. Everybody else can sit where ever they want, I'm not doing a seating chart.

I recently was in a wedding where the bride did something similar to what I'm doing, but she did have a seating chart, and it actually worked out really well because all of the bridesmaids were disbursed throughout the room and was able to generate conversation amongst strangers.

The idea of a "head table" has always made me uncomfortable. I also don't want to be on display as people watch me eat.

HTH

cnf2013 · September 2012

We're going to be tacky and rude and have a head table. Since our whole WP is the same social circle, SO's all know each other and are friends, so they'll be seated together close to the head table. It's just dinner. I went to a wedding not too long ago where FI was in the WP and I wasn't and we were split up (him at the head table and me with other people I was already friends with). It was only for like an hour. It didn't bother me one bit.

NikishaMcFall · September 2012

cnf - I don't think it's tacky or rude for you to have a head table. I know that's an unpopular way of thinking, but I really don't. Didn't it use to be the norm?

cnf2013 · September 2012

Yeah, it did. I personally don't think it's tacky. It's pretty traditional, but I know it's very frowned upon on the other boards. I was mostly poking fun at myself. I don't really care where I sit for the hour I'll be busy stuffing my face with free food at a wedding and I don't get why other people get bent out of shape over it. Our venue provides a head table set up in front of the picture windows overlooking the lake and that's what we're going with.

emilyb213 · September 2012

We're doing a sweetheart table, partly because my little brother and sister are a part of our bridal party. They'll be 14 and 16 by the time our wedding rolls around, and we know they'd both feel awkward and out of place at a head table. I don't think it's rude at all to do a head table with just you two and your maid of honor and best man, and I'm sure your other attendants would appreciate getting to sit with their dates.

[Deleted User] · September 2012

I haven't decided yet. Cnf is kind of right though you'll only be there through dinner really and it would give them a chane to socialize. The thing that I'm worried about is that some of the ladies on my side are on the younger side, because they're family and I'm the oldest in my family. I could sit my junior bridesmaid away from the head table and that would probably be okay, but since she's my going to be step sister (my dad is getting married in October to her mom) she'll probably come up and hug me a lot just so she can hang out with us. She's only 10 and I know how our friends are they'll probably be very inappropriate and I'm not worried about the older ones as much they can handle it, but she's only going to be 10 lol.

rmp4996 · September 2012

We are going to have a sweatheart table I think. I kind of what to just sit with him for the few minutes we will actually be sitting. Havn't decided what I'm doing with the WP yet. I wanted to seat them all together at one table so they are close and easy to find for pictures and stuff, but it might be easier to seat them with their families.

ashlidie · September 2012

I think it should be OK if your MOH and BM dont have their own dates, otherwise I think their dates should be included (in our case, MOH and BM are dating and living together lol). I personally would feel left out if FI was sitting up there as BM and I was sort of hanging out elsewhere, particularly if I don't know too many people outside of the bride groom and my FI.

We are opting for a sweetheart table only for space reasons. Having a big long table where only one side is seated takes up valuable seating space that I need for all my guests to be comfortable.

If we did do a head table, our bridal party and their dates would be included.

cnf2013 · September 2012

MrsK, I'd never seen or heard of it being done any other way than having a head table that included the bride, groom and wedding party only prior to coming here either. It's seriously the norm here and it's what everyone expects to happen.

anastassiiat · September 2012

I know we are doing a seating chart for our guests, but I'm not sure what FI and I are doing. We are definitely not doing a sweetheart table, we are debating between a head table with family or a head table with our WP.

cadamus · September 2012

Well my MOH is my sister and our Best Man is my cousin so who ever their dates are will already know my family. My sister already told me that she probably will not have a date and my cousin is always up in the air

xoEmilyRose · September 2012

We're going to go ahead and do the head table, just because we both always liked the set up and look of it. I've been to one wedding where they did the sweetheart tables and the wedding party weren't able to sit with their non-wedding party dates so I didn't see a point of doing that if their bridal party couldn't sit with other family. Our wedding party has 3 married couples already, so they'll be together. The others may or may not bring dates so I think it will work out fine for our situation!

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