Sometimes I want to slap people

kamarks08 · January 2012

Quick vent.

I sent out my invites on the 3rd of January.

A good friend / co-worker was in a serious relationship for three years, so obviously, her SO was also invited. Well, they broke up last week. After the break up is when she just happened to check her mail and saw the invite, that was addressed to both of them.

She had the nerve to take a picture of it, post it on FB, tag me and have a line underneath it saying "Perfect timing. As if I'm not in mourning already. Thanks a lot jerk." Okay, cool. THEN the comments underneath it were like "Oh, I'm sure she feels like such a b!tch for doing that." "I'm sure she realizes how bad of a friend that makes her." Etc, etc....

Seriously? I get that you're going through a rough time, but did it ever cross your mind that y'all broke up WAY after the invites were sent. In fact, the invite was in your mailbox before you broke up. I even apologized and joked around going "Hey, sorry those were sent out way before all the stuff happened, but you could bring *mentioned some of her girl friends names* instead. They'll probably be more fun anyways

" She joked around and was like yeah that's a good idea, but didn't defend me in any way. Basically kept playing the "I should've known better" card... She eventually just kinda got mad at me because he was invitied / included on the invitation, whatever. But it's not my fault - - it's nobody's fault. There is absolutely no way that could've been prevented.

But it kinda pissed me off. It's stupid and I don't take anything any of the posters said to heart, but I just really wanted to slap her and be like, do you really think I was like Oh, they just broke up, let me stick his name on the invite just as a jab in the heart! I feel bad for her, I truly do, but I have a hard time when people make every single thing about them and turn it all around so that every situation is "woe is me." That's just not my style. Especially since it was a situation completely out of my control.

Okay, I'm done. This was not as quick as I had initially intended it to be. lol Thanks for letting me vent.

Anyways, I needed to vent because when she posted that picture on FB I really just wanted to be like, you've got a lot of nerve, woman.

mary1217 · January 2012

Wow - what a bitch of her to post that and act like you did it on purpose. I would have commented on the picture itself.

[Deleted User] · January 2012

She's being ridiculous, if she'd bothered to look at the postmark she'd have seen they went out before her split. I wouldn't add any fuel to the fire, but I'd consider calling her or sending her a private email to explain that A) the invites went out weeks ago and

you would never do anything to throw salt in an open wound. 3 years is a long time and she's probably in mourning over her relationship and not in the most rational state.

I had the same thing happen, one of my best friends split with his GF of 18 months the same day I put invites in the mail... I found out about 3 hours after I dropped them at the post office. Lucky for me, he's a typical guy and was able to laugh about it by the time he got it in the mail.

rebeccaa12 · January 2012

That's is horrible...I am so sorry she called you out like that. NOT.COOL.

rachel801231 · January 2012

What a witch! Things like that happen. I remember when my grandpa passed away and someone called our house looking for him. We could have been like, how dare him and cussed him out etc, but he didn't know. It was an honest mistake. Yours wasn't even a mistake. Did anyone care to check out the postmark date? I would do what pp suggested and call her she isn't thinking rationally and people do crazy things in grief. So maybe she will calm down and see that you didn't mean to hurt her even more than she is. If not, I would just tell her that she might as well just not go to the wedding.

jbrook12 · January 2012

Oh I would have been HEATED!! I know she is hurting right now but to call you out on something you didn't intend to hurt her with is just wrong. Hopefully after she get through some of the pain she will see how wrong she was to do what she did.

brittandjp · January 2012

That's really, really inappropriate of her. She probably didn't even take the time to realize or ask when they were sent. Any logical person would have done so or simply assumed you had sent them before the break up. If it really bothered her that much, she should have called or sent a message/text to you individually. Who calls someone out, including name calling, on a social media site?! That's really not cool and I know you don't want to hurt her because she is mourning, but I would definitely say something. Explain yourself, but also explain how you felt really offended and bothered by the fact of not only what she did, but her choice of language. (Really, jerk? You're going to call a friend who invited you to her wedding a jerk online for all to see? SO rude!!).

Anyway, I'm sorry. I'd be really pissed off too, but I definitely wouldn't let it go. I'd say something to her about it.

jml1981 · January 2012

OMG. You are waaay nicer than I am. I would have been commenting on that picture myself to A) let people know where they can stick it - 2 sides to every story and

to tell them to look at the postmark clearly showing it was before they broke up.

I can't believe she called you out on Facebook over something that wasn't your fault. Are we in high school? I'm sorry, but I would be rescinding that invitiation. And really - I guess she thinks you're a mind reader since you should have known that they were going to break up before she got the invite...RUDE IMO.

4n6chick · January 2012

I guess I'm just a bitch, because I would have responded on the picture that 1) she should look at the postmark and check her mail more often, and 2) that I would take it her RSVP would be 'no' since she surely wouldn't want to hang out with such a 'jerk'.

I don't think I would have had a problem with posting the picture or the message if she had left off the 'thanks a lot, jerk'. Especially since she knows you're a FB friend of hers and would see it.

femmepink · January 2012

Holy shiit I would've lost my shiit on that FB post!

I would've said, "ignorance makes people look like fools because how was I to know that they'd have a relationship fail when I addressed/sent these invitations *however much time* ago? I'm planning my wedding and my top priority isn't to play 'relationship psychic' before I invite them to my wedding. If I am a biitch because of this, than so be it. Next time check the date on the postage before you make yourself look like an attention wwhore on FB!" That is all. LOL

HobokensFury · January 2012

I would have bitched her out. Hopefully she doesn't come because you don't need her there.

arrestclementine · January 2012

OMG ... seriously!? Who would do that? ..... This girl is all sorts of crazy.

Carykay · January 2012

Sorry she is being a b*tch! I cant believe she is acting like you did that on purpose! Sorry girl

southerncharm24 · January 2012

I would have replied with.... "I'll take that as I should RSVP you as a no, jackass"

LoverBean27 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_sometimes-want-slap-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:225978c2-d52f-4b0c-ab8c-c7dc10d8289fPost:91cba789-ac70-41cb-922b-6406d3e1b0c0">Re: Sometimes I want to slap people</a>:
[QUOTE]I guess I'm just a bitch, because I would have responded on the picture that 1) she should look at the postmark and check her mail more often, and 2) that I would take it her RSVP would be 'no' since she surely wouldn't want to hang out with such a 'jerk'. I don't think I would have had a problem with posting the picture or the message if she had left off the 'thanks a lot, jerk'. Especially since she knows you're a FB friend of hers and would see it.
Posted by 4n6chick[/QUOTE]

LOL!!!!!!! I Love this!!! I would never have the guts to do that but oh I sure would think it!!!

Oh a different note, I'm really sorry she did that. It's a bit crazy IMO.

kamarks08 · January 2012

Hahaha all of these responses made me laugh out loud and feel SO much better about the situation. Thanks ladies. I'm probably just going to let it go. I don't want to risk saying anything and her be all "I JUST GOT OUT OF A RELATIONSHIP," on me, so I'm attempting to be the bigger person. Yalls responses definitely helped. Ha

jml1981 · January 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_march-2012-weddings_sometimes-want-slap-people?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:955e4823-0be1-44ef-9ee7-99a63794e103Discussion:225978c2-d52f-4b0c-ab8c-c7dc10d8289fPost:91cba789-ac70-41cb-922b-6406d3e1b0c0">Re: Sometimes I want to slap people</a>:
[QUOTE]I guess I'm just a bitch, because I would have responded on the picture that 1) she should look at the postmark and check her mail more often, and 2) that I would take it her RSVP would be 'no' since she surely wouldn't want to hang out with such a 'jerk'. I don't think I would have had a problem with posting the picture or the message if she had left off the 'thanks a lot, jerk'. <strong>Especially since she knows you're a FB friend of hers and would see it.
</strong>Posted by 4n6chick[/QUOTE]

I think you missed the part where the girl actually TAGGED her in the posted photo to be sure that she would see the comment. Not just that she may see it because they're friends. I'm sorry, but if someone did that to me, heads would roll.

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