Different Faith Ceremony

Re: Different Faith Ceremony

• Simply Fated member

  

  February 2013

  
  Not that you can't talk about it here (obviously) but there is an Interfaith board where maybe more people can relate to this, if you want to check it out.
  http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_interfaith-weddings
  
  My boyfriend and I are of different faiths. He was raised Catholic and is now... atheist? Agnostic? Questioning? I'm not sure what to label it. I'm the same way, but I was raised Jewish.
  I found out from his sister that his grandmother is certain I'll cave and agree to have a wedding in a church, if we ever do decide to get married. My own boyfriend doesn't even want to get married in a church, why would I? So weird.
  I'm sure his parents and some family might be disappointed, but hopefully none of them will create a scene or throw a fit.
  
  

  
  

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• mcda04 member

  

  February 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_ceremony-ideas_different-faith-ceremony?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:10Discussion:1cdfcf54-b7ad-46af-8d2c-feaa319f6505Post:76b4fd46-7afe-4634-9dba-964533dc9d99">Different Faith Ceremony</a>:
  [QUOTE]I apologize if this has been recently done, but I was inspired by the Catholic + Athiest thread, did any of you guys have religious problems during your wedding planning?  Ours wasn't a big deal, my FI's parents are both Catholic but he is an athiest.  I'm a protestant, but I don't go to church regularly.  We're getting married in an outdoor ceremony and didn't have a second thought about it, but I know his real mom (who he never speaks with and he wasn't planning on inviting) is very very religious, as is his dad and stepmother. He wasn't even planning on telling her he was getting married but she found out an called him, and now he's nervous she is going to make a scene at the wedding. I don't really need any advice, just looking for others to relate?
  Posted by LuckyLucke[/QUOTE]
  
  I'm VERY happy you will be having an outdoor ceremony and not caving in to family's demands.
  
  To ME; it is very disrespectful to have a Catholic ceremony when you don't practice the faith. It's lying to the Church and yourselves. I just don't understand why families force their children to do this.
  
  Yes maybe they just want to provide guidance but forcing them to make promises they won't keep is wrong.
  
  If your FMIL causes a scene, she will look bad not you.

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• Xstatic3333 member

  

  February 2013

  I had to let FI do some serious soul searching about whether he wanted a Catholic wedding or not. He was confirmed Catholic, but has drifted from the Church over some political issues. I didn't want to pressure him, so we tabled the discussion for a month so he could make the decision on his own terms. We ultimately decided to be married in my Protestant faith, and we are both excited. Like PP said, having a Catholic wedding didn't feel right when he was no longer practicing and I also had some serious reservations. We have enough serious, practicing Catholic friends to know that it would have been disrespectful to their faith.

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• thejucheidea member

  

  February 2013

  We're both Buddhist, but our families are Christian and we're getting married in a Christian church but will probably have a friend presiding over the ceremony who will make it religion-free so we don't have to be paying lip service to Christianity but don't go so full-on Buddhist that we offend his super devout Southern Baptist family. I'd definitely prefer a wedding more in line with our faith, but we're both willing to set aside one day of our married lives to make his family happen.
  
  And when it comes to his mom complaining, I have one thing to say to her:
  
  

  
  

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• Brittywest05 member

  

  February 2013

  We didn't have this problem with wedding planning, but only because we already have a 2 year old. Baptizing him was a HUGE battle. My FI was raised in a super strict catholic home and attended 12 years of catholic schooling and his mom is a catholic teacher, the whole 9 yards basically. My FI has not practiced since he graduated high school, more than 8 years ago, other than the occasional family gathering and going then. When our son was born it was a huge battle, I understand my FMIL love of her religion etc, but with neither of us actually practicing I was not going to allow my son to be baptized in the catholic religion and commit to attending their church etc. We decided on non denominational for the time being, he is open to learn about all religions but we aren't going to pressure him one way or another, as weve already seen the huge family drama his baptism has caused

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• Tallgirl713 member

  

  February 2013

   I am Catholic and he's agnostic/atheist but he was baptized Protestant. I am not religious but I do believe in God. I want our marriage to be blessed in church (doesn't have to be a Catholic church). He would be happy marrying me at the reception hall by the jester of the peace but since this is my first wedding and I am more of a traditional bride he is willing to make me happy.
  My whole family is Catholic and his father is Catholic but his Mom is Protestant. We've decided we are going to do whatever makes us happy. It's our wedding and our day!

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