FI at the shower?

Ash61612 · March 2012

Is your FI coming to your bridal shower? If so, will he be there for presents or just at the end to see everything?

MMRoberts11 · March 2012

My FI will come a little later to it. We are going to mingle, eat, and then open presents. He'll be there to open presents with me since it'll be his stuff too, say thanks to everyone, and help load the car.

LOTON01 · March 2012

Fi is coming. He'll hang at the bar and eat with the guys but then come to open presents.

Jessica632011 · March 2012

Yes my FI and a couple of the GM will be coming to the shower for a little while. I wanted him there so he can mingle with his family. He will come to eat probably and then we will open presents together and thank everyone for coming.

sleblanc72 · March 2012

He'll be there but so will our dad's and his best friend. Likely the guys will grab some food and end up watching some sports game on tv (since it's at my sisters house) until it's time to open the presents.

Jessica632011 · March 2012

TK ate my pst of course so I'll try again.

Yeah my FI will be coming to the shower with a couple GM for a little while. I wanted him to be there to mingle with his family, we are having a DW so some of the people won't be able to make it to the wedding. So he will come and eat some food, help open the presents, and thank everyone for coming!

Megbo2012 · March 2012

FI dropped me off at the shower and left with my uncle and their dog (he was in heaven!) and they went and hung out and played disc golf until it was time to pick up my aunt, then we had the muscles to load up my car my mom's car and MOH's truck. He didn't watch me open gifts or anything, but he came in time to eat some leftover food!

mek20 · March 2012

In my family, it is tradition for the groom to come towards the end of the shower, before everyone is leaving. Since the gifts are for him as well, it is nice to talk with the groom and for the groom to personally thank everyone.

midgetthemighty · March 2012

I can't see the OP but FI isn't coming to mine until the end to help load up the presents and take them to the apartment. I don't see a problem with them going if they want to. I've seen it both ways.

Now the couples shower, obviously he'll be there.

acaponi87 · March 2012

FI will be coming toward the end.

chelseakopperud · March 2012

I doubt he will even stop in, unless he comes to help me load the car.

HarperBargo · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_fi-at-the-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:b4cff98b-75a5-4803-be95-5ed330d06750Post:9bf262a0-5e26-4df3-8bcf-5a97b4b9276d">Re: FI at the shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]I doubt he will even stop in, unless he comes to help me load the car.
Posted by chelseakopperud[/QUOTE]

This. For my family it is just a girl thing. I'm sure FI will come to help load the car though and eat left over cake.

ncd5015 · March 2012

Unless he travels 6 hours, I don't think he'll be at the one in PA. I think he'll just come for gifts for the one in NC.

MichelleAG05 · March 2012

I have always found FI at the shower to be weird. I think it's a regional/family preference thing. Mine will not be at either shower.

[Deleted User] · March 2012

No, my FI is not coming to the shower that my MOH is throwing me. But he is coming to two other showers that will be smaller with his side of the family. We are having around 8 parties between now and June!

kelsey+brandon · March 2012

Yes! Just at the very end though to help collect presents, like a good FI. haha His bachelor party was originally (and currently) scheduled for the day of my shower in his hometown. I told him that he had to change the date. Not only was he going to be gone over mother's day, but he wasn't making me go to his hometown for a shower and making me break etiquette rules like not inviting everyone to the wedding that they're inviting to the wedding and not be there. Call it a bridezilla moment, I don't really care, but it's not okay with me. Especially since I'm not totally comfortable around his family...especially his aunts who still occassionally call me by his ex-girlfriends name. So rude.

midgetthemighty · March 2012

Oh my goodness Kelsey.

Some people just have no manners. Do they call you that out of spite because they really liked her or are they claiming to be that forgetful?

kelsey+brandon · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_fi-at-the-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:b4cff98b-75a5-4803-be95-5ed330d06750Post:a83b7976-3a3a-47ff-a325-e58991611ab0">Re: FI at the shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]Oh my goodness Kelsey. :( Some people just have no manners. Do they call you that out of spite because they really liked her or are they claiming to be that forgetful?
Posted by midgetthemighty[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>No, they're honestly just that dumb. They HATED his ex...like if he had proposed to her like her family wanted him to (he never wanted to at all), they had an emergency, get Brandon out of the country plan.

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diamondx423 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2012-weddings_fi-at-the-shower?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:3ae4d68d-f10a-4dec-8810-da13c14a7b86Discussion:b4cff98b-75a5-4803-be95-5ed330d06750Post:129d0d36-e8d6-40fc-9455-02538a5ca29c">Re: FI at the shower?</a>:
[QUOTE]Yes! Just at the very end though to help collect presents, like a good FI. haha His bachelor party was originally (and currently) scheduled for the day of my shower in his hometown. I told him that he had to change the date. Not only was he going to be gone over mother's day, but he wasn't making me go to his hometown for a shower and making me break etiquette rules like not inviting everyone to the wedding that they're inviting to the wedding and not be there. Call it a bridezilla moment, I don't really care, but it's not okay with me. Especially since I'm not totally comfortable around his family...<strong>especially his aunts who still occassionally call me by his ex-girlfriends name. So rude</strong>.
Posted by kelsey+brandon[/QUOTE]

So rude! I don't think you are being Bridezilla, FI wanted to have his bachelor party in Montreal and I flipped that I didn't want him and his (idiot) friends in another country for a weekend being stupid. A four day bachelor party is excessive; and when you put so many boys together someone is bound to get hurt.

As for the question, FI will probably drop me off and pick me up. I imagine he'll have to hang out with my uncles and maybe his brother. My shower is a surprise, but I'm assuming he'll be in on it and will be in charge of my transportation.

Skittles612 · March 2012

Traditionally in this area, showers are a girl thing. If I'm lucky he will come and help load up the gifts but he will not be there for the festivities. Besides, he would really hate the whole thing anyway (which would ruin it for me as well).

Megbo2012 · March 2012

Kelsey, not a brideszilla moment don't worry.

Also, there was a Mrs. X to be sign, and two BMs held it and FI and I stood under it for a picture. Definitely consider having your FIs pick you up ladies, some of the stuff is heavy!

sleblanc72 · March 2012

Kelsey that is definitely not a bridezilla moment and that really sucks about the name thing, especially being connected to some one who seems so awful.

courtneyclare103 · March 2012

FI probably won't be back home from school yet to be able to come at the end, otherwise he would come at the end to have a few nibbles and load the car.

DrPB2b13 · March 2012

Kelsey, MY FILs often have to ask me what my name is! I don't mind it too much though, I know because they adore me, and they're older. The two girls FI had previously brought home were Ali and Ashley, and now I'm Abbe, so I understand if they get 'em mixed up...

My FI has to be there to drop me off and pick me up, because I don't know when or where it is. I have no idea if he's planning on staying at all though. I've never been to a bridal shower where the groom was there at all, but I also haven't been to many bridal showers, period.

jaime10285 · March 2012

FI will not be at my shower hosted by my BMs because it's in CT and we live in MA so he's not going down to CT with me for the weekend. FMIL is hosting a shower too and I know FI won't come to the shower but I wonder if he'll show up at the end. I'll talk to him and FMIL about what they want. It doesn't really matter to me.

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