I posted this on the Etiquette board but no one responded - any suggestions appreciated!
I know people ask about the deal with tipping quite a bit, but I wanted your input on what my planner suggested for tipping the other day. She said its standard to provide a tip for all vendors who don't provide you with a tangible product. Our waitstaff/bartender/caterer is all part of venue and gratuity was included.
This means I would need to tip DJ, Officiant, Limo Driver, Lighting guy, Planner and possibly her day of assistant. Planner also suggested that I could give her the tips in cash on Friday before rehearsal.
My issues with this based on what i have read her on this forum - our DJ owns his own company. THe lighting guy owns his own company. It seems weird to tip a minister. Our planner owns her own company. I can see tipping the limo driver.
Furthermore, giving her the money before we receive the services is a bit more unsettling to me. And it is blowing my mind that we need to tip people who own their own companies are making a profits off of what we have paid them. It's not like they are waitstaff, bartenders, etc.
What do you think?