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Who walks me down the eisle?

ChristinaJoey2012ChristinaJoey2012
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I've been giving alot of thought to who might walk me down the eilse/give me away.  I first asked my 2 Grandfathers, one had alot to do with raising me the other I just love alot.  I do not have a relationship at all with my "father" so he is out.  My Grandfather suggested my Mother as well, which is cool but I am not that connected with her, but out of respect for her I feel like I should.  But what I have been thinking lately is letting my daughter walk with me.  But she is already my maid of honor so I'm trying to invision how that would work.  I've also been trying to think of a part of the ceremony to include her in as we are becoming "legally" a family.  I'm stumped on that one.  I need advice :)

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  • Miss EsaMiss Esa member
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    You could have both your grandfathers walk you down the aisle.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Why don't you just walk yourself?
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  • PeavyPeavy member
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    Marriage is a legal contract between two consenting adults, so it's not appropriate to include your daughter in the ceremony or the vows.  Marriage doens't make you a family, it makes you legally husband and wife.

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  • runpipparunrunpipparun member
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    Walk down with your intended. That's honestly the way many Christian denominations prefer it in their cathecheses, because it shows that you are entering the marriage state as two freely consenting adults, as opposed to the Medieval tradition, in which he's at the front and you walk toward him with your dad, which symbolizes the property contracts of old --- you know, where your dad is there to ensure you don't run away before he gets rid of you, and your veil keeps your fiance from seeing you until you're married, so that he can't run away if you aren't pretty enough?

    Yeah, marriage traditions aren't as romantic as we make them out to be...
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  • OwningAHome1981OwningAHome1981 member
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    Do you have a brother? It wasn't mentioned here, but if you do, that might be a good person to walk you down.

    I like the 2 grandpa's idea.
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  • ChristinaJoey2012ChristinaJoey2012
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    I did ask one Grandfather, but he wasn't very intrested and suggested my Mom.  The other one I haven't asked yet since I began questioning who should actually do it.  I may just walk alone, I like that idea as well.  FI is really into waiting at the end, :).

    But for us it's super important to include my daughter in this as well, because it's just as important to her as it is us.  She was there for the proposal, and he wanted it that way.  I was thinking of doing 3 color sands to represent our bonded family unit. 
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  • JoanE2012JoanE2012 member
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    I vote to walk down the AISLE by yourself.  Other family members will be honored in other ways I'm sure.
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  • laurenlizzyblaurenlizzyb
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    I actually think your daughter walking you down the aisle is a wonderful idea.  I'm sure this a special day for her too... or scary or sort of sad... regardless, I'm sure she has a ton of emotions surrounding this big event and I love the symbolism of your daughter "giving you away" to say to her new step father that she accepts him as part of her family too:)

    As someone else stated- I don't think it's inapprorpiate at all if that would make you happy.  During one of the most beautiful weddings I've ever attended, where I sobbed like a little kid who dropped her icecream, the groom wrote additioanl "vows" just for the brides two children. It was so so touching- EVERYONE was in tears. 
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  • ChristinaJoey2012ChristinaJoey2012
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    I really do love the idea of her walking me & giving me away.  Especially the symbolism of the gesture.  I personally don't find it inappropriate at all to include her, it's just as important day for her as well.  She is super happy, which makes me even happier. 

    I would've balled my eyes out too. 
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  • serenity5689serenity5689 member
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    With the Bridal wedding I wanted, I asked my only brother (OLDER) to walk me down. My father wasnt really there growing up so I didnt feel right on asking him. My older brother was the only male rolemodel I had growing up so he seemed fit for the position.
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  • KT020803KT020803
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_who-walks-me-down-the-eisle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:e0b95aa8-c688-4ff5-bf82-343fe6322e1ePost:71782425-5552-49aa-a7ce-119348819cb0">Re: Who walks me down the eisle?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I.................  I was thinking of doing 3 color sands to represent our bonded family unit. Posted by ChristinaJoey2012[/QUOTE]

    I think the 3 colors of sand is a great idea. My Future sisler in law did it with her kids and step kids as one color and her and her husband and 2 other colors and it really meant alot to the kids to be involved. It was a very cool moment for them to hear that they are a family and are blended together now, for good times and bad! Best of luck with your planning!
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  • laurenlizzyblaurenlizzyb
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_who-walks-me-down-the-eisle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:36Discussion:e0b95aa8-c688-4ff5-bf82-343fe6322e1ePost:840cc661-0f60-457f-9627-e5627b3c28e5">Re: Who walks me down the eisle?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Who walks me down the eisle? : I think the 3 colors of sand is a great idea. My Future sisler in law did it with her kids and step kids as one color and her and her husband and 2 other colors and it really meant alot to the kids to be involved. It was a very cool moment for them to hear that they are a family and are blended together now, for good times and bad! Best of luck with your planning!
    Posted by KT020803[/QUOTE]

    <div>Wonderful idea!</div>
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  • beth34608beth34608
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    I would have your daughter walk with you. I like that idea the best. Good Luck !!
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  • catwinecatwine member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_customs-traditions_who-walks-me-down-the-eisle?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:36Discussion:e0b95aa8-c688-4ff5-bf82-343fe6322e1ePost:9d10d454-2fd4-4bec-beba-59cb5e24514b">Re: Who walks me down the eisle?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I really do love the idea of her walking me & giving me away.  Especially the symbolism of the gesture.  I personally don't find it inappropriate at all to include her, it's just as important day for her as well.  She is super happy, which makes me even happier.  I would've balled my eyes out too. 
    Posted by ChristinaJoey2012[/QUOTE]

    I love that you want to include your daughter, and clearly you think she is a good fit to walk you.  I think that's what you should do.  Hopefully your grandpas won't be dissappointed if you tell them you have changed your mind.
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