TOO MANY PEOPLE ON MY GUEST LIST

Re: TOO MANY PEOPLE ON MY GUEST LIST

• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  Can't tell you about percentages, but your FH is wrong, it's never okay to invite people and expect them not to come.  In fact it's very rude. You need to plan for 100% attendance.
  
  If you haven't invited anyone as yet, you can shrink your guest list, but if you have sent invitations to anyone, those people have to be considered "invited" and planned for and not dropped from your list.

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• SlothGoals member

  

  January 2013 edited January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_too-many-people-on-my-guest-list?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:133d60c3-3554-4193-9a40-63864041f8a9Post:9724af0f-7341-456e-8372-4b15f49362a9">TOO MANY PEOPLE ON MY GUEST LIST</a>:
  [QUOTE]My guest list is way too big but my FH says it's ok because most of them won't come, that really freaks me out! Has anyone already done this and can you tell me what the percentage of invitees that declined was? Thanks!
  Posted by mississippidrea[/QUOTE]<div>
  </div><div>You definitely need to plan for 100% attendance and your FI's insistence that it is okay to over-invite should definitely freak you out. Since everyone's wedding is different their percentage of declines will be different too. I would start cutting your list down because if you invite all these people you need to be able to pay for them to attend.</div><div>
  </div><div>ETA: If the date in your profile is correct then you definitely have time to cut your list. But as Edie pointed out anyone you have sent an STD to you have to invite.</div><div>
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• OliveOilsMom member

  

  January 2013

  I invited 105 people and 99 attended.  Please plan for 100% attendance.  You and FI could be in a tight bind if you get more Yes responses than you can afford (or legally have in your space).  As PP said, a STD=invitation, but if you have not invited anyone yet, could you cut your guestlist down by inviting in circles?  For example, all immediate family, aunt/uncles, first cousins only.  You could also cut down on your guestlist by having an adult reception (or mostly adult).  Again, invite children in circles: all neices and nephews only.

  

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• mississippidrea member

  

  January 2013

  Just getting ready to do save the dates now! It's just difficult because we have a huge number of out of state/country guests and our mothers feel it would be insulting not to invite out of country family however there are others i'm more confident will show up. The knott.com has an article that suggests an A/B list and invite more guests as people decline but the timing seems difficult to execute with an out of state wedding. Oh well, better start whitteling it down!

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• SlothGoals member

  

  January 2013

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_too-many-people-on-my-guest-list?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:133d60c3-3554-4193-9a40-63864041f8a9Post:92663e18-f7bb-419c-86b2-6b97f6d9a50f">Re: TOO MANY PEOPLE ON MY GUEST LIST</a>:
  [QUOTE]Just getting ready to do save the dates now! It's just difficult because we have a huge number of out of state/country guests and our mothers feel it would be insulting not to invite out of country family however there are others i'm more confident will show up. The knott.com has an article that suggests an A/B list and invite more guests as people decline but the timing seems difficult to execute with an out of state wedding. Oh well, better start whitteling it down!
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  <div>I am only sending STDs to the VIPs I am definitely inviting to my wedding. It includes mostly family and close friends. That being said, you can send invitations without sending STDs but you <strong>cannot</strong> send an STD and then not send an invitation.</div><div>
  </div><div>You can still invite your out of country family but you don't have to send them an STD; if you later find that you can't actually invite them then you won't be locked in.</div>

   

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