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Wedding Woes
MrsMyrtle
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Since we're talking about divorce & kids
in Wedding Woes
You're in a loveless marriage. You and your spouse are constantly fighting. The only reason you're married is because you have a child together.
That child gets older and has its own set of problems. Serious problems.
Your life is miserable. You should be retiring, and instead you continue to work and stay in the schitty marriage because you think it's the right thing to do for your kid.
WDWWT? There's really no good resolution.
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Re: Since we're talking about divorce & kids
He said he wants out but worries about how divorce would affect the kid.
I said, in my experience, it's worse for the kid to see all the fighting and parents being jerky to another. Like THAT sets a better example than divorce? An unhappy marriage isn't a good example or good for the kid either (in general). I feel it is better to have two happy, seperate parents than living in a house where there is constant fighting/miserable parents.
Also, his wife used to be super jealous of me and told him never to spend time alone with me and then SHE went out and cheated. I find this highly ironic - or something - I'm not sure if that is the right word. But oh, how the mightly have fallen.
That is if BOTH people want to save their marriage. It's not going to work if only one person wants to save it, and the other person has one foot out of the door.
Also, FWIW - my friend's wife stepped out on him first. They tried to work it out, with Jesus, and I guess something happened because the next thing I know, he's cheated, doesn't know if he can get his marriage back, doesn't know if he wants it back, has quit his job and went back to his hometown (which is in a different country). Crazy.
Crap...I Mean Crafts
1) that's no example and
2) no kid wants to feel like she's the reason both of her parents are so unhappy.
they should divorce. if she wants to spend the money making him unhappy, that's fine. but her crazy will probably win out and he can get some rights to his kid.
Crap...I Mean Crafts
I know when SIL and BIL were planning to separate, SIL went to see a lawyer who gave her good advice about what to do before they split up (getting finances straight, miscellany about health insurance for the kids, etc) and what could/should be resolved afterward. Naturally, they ended up not divorcing (eyeroll). I expect them to be right back in the same situation in a year or two. Even DH thinks so, and he always has rose-colored glasses on about people.