OK...I am sure this will be a post that has been on here before, but my turn. We started talking about engagement last new years eve. I wasnt expecting it because he has been married before. We looked hard for about a month and I fell in love with a ring we saw. Then after I went through the look at gowns, venues, flowers, etc phase (without a ring), I stopped because he wasnt talking about it and I was on here and read to try to focus on something else. Well that worked for a while and he would bring up getting married, but then still no ring. So I totally stopped talking about it because the yo~yo was making me nuts! I finally decided that he was working on paying for it and it would happen when it happened. The other day he brought it up again. I told him I stopped talking about it and dwelling on it because it had to pressure him some. Then tonight he was looking at the ring online and made it sound like he hasent even tried to start paying on it!!! UGH!!! What do guys not realize about the dangling carrot?? In the mean time, my cousin got engaged and married, for the second time, two women at work got married, another got engaged and his friend, who looked at rings after us, already got engaged!!!! I do not doubt that he wants to, I really believe it is the money. I just want to scream...so what do I do? Any ideas, suggestions? Should I just SCREAM?!!?