C & V Thursday

emilyb213 · September 2012

**Insert confessions and vents here.**

sopraffina · September 2012

Confession: I'm still stalking other dresses. It's not that I don't love my dress. I just love about 4 other ones too. Ugh.

Vent: I am so tired of wedding vendors treating me like $hit. I called DB to ask a question about my order, and the girl basically told me to call back later because they were busy. I understand that, but I've gotten that vibe from them before every time I've contacted them. And when I call other places about BM dresses, they act annoyed. It seems they want you to just set up an appointment and go with no questions, but if I make an appointment and my sister can't fit into any of their samples, I'm going to go bridezilla on them!

ETA: My boss is driving me nuts with the wedding ideas. I don't want to say the things I don't like because I know everyone has different tastes, but let's just say everything she suggests are things I dislike about weddings. She wants me to do everything her daughter did ten years ago.

Samela20 · September 2012

Confession- I majorly snapped at FI last night because I am soooo stressed about not having a job. I'm going broke, no ones even calling about an interview, I can't do wedding planning stuff because I need downpayments, AND I got my period yesterday so I was a major biotch!!

Vent- I am totally jealous and mad about all of the stuff you ladies are getting done! Vows? Cakes? flowers? not even CLOSE to getting that stuff done!! I feel like I suck at this wedding planning stuff!! we have our venue, photographer, dresses and shoes... thats it!! I don't even know where to go...

rmp4996 · September 2012

Confession, I just want to leave work, curl up in bed, and just sleep all day. Vent, I am having a horrible week, and it is getting worse and worse instead of better. And then I found out my dads childhood friends wife passed away in her sleep Tuesday night, and they had just lost their son to a freak accident a few months ago. So I am wallowing in my pity party, and am really sad for them as well as the personal stuff going on with me, and I feel guilty about being sad for my stuff because I think of how horrible it must feel to be my dads friend right now, losing his wife and son in 1 year. Wow, that was really depressing, hope I didn't bring everyone down with me. Sorry, just needed to get it out and I'm at work, no one to really talk to about it here.

kellyeliz · September 2012

Confession: We went bridesmaid dress shopping on Sunday and I love the dress that we chose however they didn't have a sample in our color (pool) (also really glad I did spell check because it said poo and I can only imagine what color you would think my dresses are haha!). I have the swatch and it is the exact color we want but everytime I look at it online it looks really different and the material looks like crap, I know everything looks different on the computer but I'm so nervous that they are going to come in and be completely wrong!

Vent: FIs mom is moving an hour and a half away. He is the youngest of three children and everything always falls on him because he is basically the only responsible one. Anyway, not only do I have to work all day today and have a really long meeting but I then have to rush home to drive 35 minutes to where FI's mom is living now to pack up FI's truck and drive an hour an a half to her new house to unload the truck. Then on Saturday I have to be up early to meet the movers and then go unpack her new house. I wouldn't be so annoyed except FI's sister knows she has to work at least one weekend day every week and this week she chose to work Saturday instead of Sunday. She conveniently can't help her mother move because she is working yet she is on FB making all sorts of plans with her friends. I can't even take her sometimes.. Like I reallllly want to be helping their mother move on Saturday? No! But obviously since she is my future MIL and I care about my FI I will be there helping. UGH! Sorry it's so long, I just get so annoyed by his family sometimes!

kellyeliz · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:42afec17-d88f-4383-a023-e638bdece5d6">Re:C amp; V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession, I just want to leave work, curl up in bed, and just sleep all day. Vent, I am having a horrible week, and it is getting worse and worse instead of better. And then I found out my dads childhood friends wife passed away in her sleep Tuesday night, and they had just lost their son to a freak accident a few months ago. So I am wallowing in my pity party, and am really sad for them as well as the personal stuff going on with me, and I feel guilty about being sad for my stuff because I think of how horrible it must feel to be my dads friend right now, losing his wife and son in 1 year. Wow, that was really depressing, hope I didn't bring everyone down with me. Sorry, just needed to get it out and I'm at work, no one to really talk to about it here.
Posted by rmp4996[/QUOTE]

So sorry about your bad week & your dad's friend! That is terrible news and so sad! I hope everything gets better soon!

anastassiiat · September 2012

Sopra - sorry about DB not treating you well! I know when I got my dress the salon was all nice to me before I made the order, and after I've paid the deposit their customer service wasn't as good anymore, I guess they knew I wasn't going anywhere and didn't really care to make a good impression.

Samela - I think you are on good track, you have a lot of big things done, I also don't have my vows or flowers yet. I do have cake, but I love cake so I just needed an excuse to go tasting.

Vent: I have a major work vent, we have hired a consultant a couple months ago to work on a project, and they were supposed to take a full control over it. Well, I ended up doing most of the data research, and now I have to get a data set for them (which initially they were supposed to work on!) which will probably take me a week!

Confession: My hands get really dry when the chilly weather comes and I get hangnails, and whenever I get one I pick on it and turn my hands into a giant mess. I keep telling myself that I need to stop, but I just can't!

anastassiiat · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:42afec17-d88f-4383-a023-e638bdece5d6">Re:C amp; V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession, I just want to leave work, curl up in bed, and just sleep all day. Vent, I am having a horrible week, and it is getting worse and worse instead of better. And then I found out my dads childhood friends wife passed away in her sleep Tuesday night, and they had just lost their son to a freak accident a few months ago. So I am wallowing in my pity party, and am really sad for them as well as the personal stuff going on with me, and I feel guilty about being sad for my stuff because I think of how horrible it must feel to be my dads friend right now, losing his wife and son in 1 year. Wow, that was really depressing, hope I didn't bring everyone down with me. Sorry, just needed to get it out and I'm at work, no one to really talk to about it here.
Posted by rmp4996[/QUOTE]

Oh rmp, I'm sorry about your dad's friend! *Hugs*

lovefuzzies · September 2012

Confession: My allergies have made this a rough week and I ended up going all crazy-miserable-witch on my FI two days ago. He's suck a kind soul he just looked at me and sent me to bed, LOL. Felt like a heel the next the day and apologized all over myself. He didn't say anything and just hugged me. There are some days I just can't believe how lucky I am.

Vent: I'm at the point where I'm ready to throttle my son. It's always been a struggle to get him to do his assigned chores but now that he's turned 18 it's even worse. I get the impression that he thinks because he's 18 now and could technically be out on his own and because he's going to college and working at the same time he thinks he doesn't have to help around the house. We've had the talk (several times) that when you live with someone it's courteous and just the right thing to do to take on some of the housework but, while his head nods yes and okay, I think my words are going in one ear and out the other. I have to prompt him to do his chores over and over and I feel like I'm treating him like a grade-schooler and then he grumbles the whole time and does a half-arse job of it! I really don't think I've asked him to do too many chores and I haven't added any chores to his list for years because I feel like the majority of the work should be mine as the adult but surely taking out the trash, mowing the lawn, cleaning the bathroom and taking care of the cat he wanted isn't asking too much!!! Grrrrrr!!!! Kids these days are so frustrating.

lovefuzzies · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:2e3c0b0f-0a3c-4c1f-b2f0-f344c6c2e410">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Vent: I am so tired of wedding vendors treating me like $hit. I called DB to ask a question about my order, and the girl basically told me to call back later because they were busy.
Posted by sopraffina[/QUOTE]

<div>Sorry to hear how DB is treating you. I refused to even look at them for wedding dress shopping because when I went in there (two different times) to ask questions about setting up an appointment I got completely ignored. I heard employees talking about their weekends and boyfriends while I waited to speak with someone and no one would help me. I finally just left with no questions answered and no appointment.</div>

lovefuzzies · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:48268b40-707c-422c-86f3-98d2804d1243">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession- I majorly snapped at FI last night because I am soooo stressed about not having a job. I'm going broke, no ones even calling about an interview, I can't do wedding planning stuff because I need downpayments, AND I got my period yesterday so I was a major biotch!! Vent- I am totally jealous and mad about all of the stuff you ladies are getting done! Vows? Cakes? flowers? not even CLOSE to getting that stuff done!! I feel like I suck at this wedding planning stuff!! we have our venue, photographer, dresses and shoes... thats it!! I don't even know where to go...
Posted by Samela20[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>Are we paddling the same boat? LOL, I feel your pain. FI is getting laid off for 4 weeks throughout the remainder of the year and that just blows any money he planned to put towards the wedding. And, of course, we found this out after we'd made a bunch of commitments and purchased stuff for the wedding so our wedding savings is now almost completely depleted. Ugh, totally sucks. It sounds like you've gotten a lot done though!
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lovefuzzies · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:42afec17-d88f-4383-a023-e638bdece5d6">Re:C amp; V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Confession, I just want to leave work, curl up in bed, and just sleep all day. Vent, I am having a horrible week, and it is getting worse and worse instead of better. And then I found out my dads childhood friends wife passed away in her sleep Tuesday night, and they had just lost their son to a freak accident a few months ago. So I am wallowing in my pity party, and am really sad for them as well as the personal stuff going on with me, and I feel guilty about being sad for my stuff because I think of how horrible it must feel to be my dads friend right now, losing his wife and son in 1 year. Wow, that was really depressing, hope I didn't bring everyone down with me. Sorry, just needed to get it out and I'm at work, no one to really talk to about it here.
Posted by rmp4996[/QUOTE]

<div>Soo sorry for your dad's friend! I hope your week starts to get better soon!</div>

sopraffina · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:717303e6-8e45-4bf2-a975-5c85b9eb490d">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Grrrrrr!!!! Kids these days are so frustrating.
Posted by lovefuzzies[/QUOTE]

My 17-year-old locked my keys in the trunk of the car costing me $125 for a locksmith. He's missed the bus twice this week making me late for work. Don't get me started on chores. It's basically "Let's Make a Deal" whenever I want him to do something.

lovefuzzies · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:628db47c-1806-4a0d-81d7-8bbc873d9f94">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Vent: FIs mom is moving an hour and a half away. He is the youngest of three children and everything always falls on him because he is basically the only responsible one. Anyway, not only do I have to work all day today and have a really long meeting but I then have to rush home to drive 35 minutes to where FI's mom is living now to pack up FI's truck and drive an hour an a half to her new house to unload the truck. Then on Saturday I have to be up early to meet the movers and then go unpack her new house. I wouldn't be so annoyed except FI's sister knows she has to work at least one weekend day every week and this week she chose to work Saturday instead of Sunday. She conveniently can't help her mother move because she is working yet she is on FB making all sorts of plans with her friends. I can't even take her sometimes.. Like I reallllly want to be helping their mother move on Saturday? No! But obviously since she is my future MIL and I care about my FI I will be there helping. UGH! Sorry it's so long, I just get so annoyed by his family sometimes!
Posted by kellyeliz[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>That's just awful kelly! My FI is also the only responsible one in his family so all his parents stuff falls on him too. It's tough and just not a lot of fun. Sorry to hear you'll be working on moving stuff this weekend. That's always an exhausting thing.

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lovefuzzies · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:eb1c6538-7234-4137-a150-5841f6b0343d">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: C & V Thursday : My 17-year-old locked my keys in the trunk of the car costing me $125 for a locksmith. He's missed the bus twice this week making me late for work. Don't get me started on chores. It's basically "Let's Make a Deal" whenever I want him to do something.
Posted by sopraffina[/QUOTE]

<div>OMG I am so with you on the "Let's Make a Deal" thing! What IS that?! If I'd done that to MY parents they would have had my HIDE! I never questioned, I never said later, if they said to go do my chores I went and did them at that minute. My son has tried my patience but he hasn't actually costed me any money yet (that I can remember, lol).</div>

emilyb213 · September 2012

Holy smokes, it sounds like this week needs to be over ASAP for all of us. Sorry to hear about all the sad/lame/not fun stuff going on with everyone this week.

Confession: We've done a crap job of saving money recently. Between medical bills (hello, fiance's double root canal and my surgery last month), the fact that both of our cars need tires on them, and house and wedding stuff, I feel like we're hemorraging money, and it's making me stressy and I snapped at my fiance last night about it.

Vent: I'm so overloaded at work right now that I don't know where to start, and I just want to bury my head in the sand and hope that everything magically resolves itself without my help. And I've got a potential promotion riding on what I do over the next couple months, so there's like no pressure at all...NOT.

Mikesgal419 · September 2012

Wow!! It definitately needs to be Friday and now! Hugs to all of you ladies who are having really hard times.

Confession: I haven't done any wedding planning lately. FI and I have the reception venue and the lasy has been awesome and she told us that until someone else asks for it, we're good and once someone does ask for it she will let me know so we can get our happy butt down there to sign the contract.

Vent:FI is out of town and it sucks. He'll be gone for a total of 9 days. That's the longest we've been apart from each other. The worst thing is it's a 3 hour time difference. UGH!!
Also,FI and I are in school and we found out that FI degree is going to take an extra few months than we thought, so he will be interning for 9 months after we are married. I loose my spousal support from my ex (fine by me), and I was going to dip into some savings to ofset the monthly costs, but I don't want to use up my entire savings. So I'm thinking of quitting at the end of this semester and hopefully find a decent job somewhere. I have no skills, because I've been a stay at home mom for 12 years. I am scared to go back to work. I can barely keep up with the house, kids, their activities, their homework and such with only taking 2 classes 2 days a week. How am I going to do eveything while working? However, I am sick of relying financially on my ex and after FI and I are married, we are NOT living off the child support, that is for the kids only. So...I am going to have no choice but to get a job. I will probably have to go through a temp agency. I think the biggest thing that I am worried about, is not getting a job that is stable. I've done the temp to hire thing before, but that was eons ago.

lovefuzzies · September 2012

Mikesgal - Hang in there, it's hard but you'll find a way to make it all work. I often wondered that after my divorce...how am I going to be able to handle everything?! But everything worked out in the end and it will for you too.

LadyLuck77 · September 2012

Wow... It has sure been a rough week for all of us! Hugs to all of you, we'll get through it all! And now to add my portion....

Confession: We just started the planning process and it seemed like everything was going smooth sailing. Then I get knocked on my a$$ (details below) and I'm in a rut. I'll still try to plan as much as I can, and put deposits down here and there, but not sure what all I'll be able to do for a few months.

Vent: I've been with my company for almost 4 years and moved up to a management position last year. Great job, good pay and wonderful people to work with. We have been really slow lately though and I've been worried about the longevity of the company and if they could ride this out or not. I have been waiting to apply for new jobs until I get my bachelors degree in 2 weeks. I found out on Tuesday that we are all having our hours cut way, way back and will go on partial unemployment. I still have a job and some source of income, but it will be about half of what I currently make. I am thankful that I do still have something, but know that it will not even cover my month bills. Goodbye wedding fund and savings account. I just feel like such an idiot for not looking for a job sooner.

sopraffina · September 2012

@mrsk - have you ever videotaped them? I'm wondering if they saw how lame they looked doing their half-hearted attempt, maybe they would be embarrassed and try harder?

lovefuzzies · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:a0920061-a878-43a5-a5b9-1e5aa799604b">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow... It has sure been a rough week for all of us! Hugs to all of you, we'll get through it all! And now to add my portion.... Confession: We just started the planning process and it seemed like everything was going smooth sailing. Then I get knocked on my a$$ (details below) and I'm in a rut. I'll still try to plan as much as I can, and put deposits down here and there, but not sure what all I'll be able to do for a few months. Vent: I've been with my company for almost 4 years and moved up to a management position last year. Great job, good pay and wonderful people to work with. We have been really slow lately though and I've been worried about the longevity of the company and if they could ride this out or not. I have been waiting to apply for new jobs until I get my bachelors degree in 2 weeks. I found out on Tuesday that we are all having our hours cut way, way back and will go on partial unemployment. I still have a job and some source of income, but it will be about half of what I currently make. I am thankful that I do still have something, but know that it will not even cover my month bills. Goodbye wedding fund and savings account. I just feel like such an idiot for not looking for a job sooner.
Posted by LadyLuck77[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>That's just awful Lady! I'm so sorry to hear that. I hope your hours pick back up soon so you can have your savings/wedding account back!

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lovefuzzies · September 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_june-2013-weddings_c-v-thursday-24?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:f30b0bfc-508d-415c-bf59-ab83e327da37Discussion:2b5a0240-d34b-4fba-840f-ce4a623d2e4bPost:59ffe357-9bf3-4a72-83ef-0d94b620cd43">Re: C & V Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]confession: Our priest wants us to abstain from sexual intimacy until the wedding. I don't know how realistic that is :/ and it makes me feel horrible if we do end up "doing it" because we were told not to lol. vent: I all but up and quit yesterday at practice. I finally lost it big time. I told the girls if they don't care to be there, I don't care to take time out of my personal life to spend 4 days a week listening to their bullsh!t excuses, and I told them I am not putting my reputation of coaching on the line only to be embarrassed by them because they can't stand to put in some work into make the team amazing.
Posted by mrskaiser22[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>mrsk, no guilt! Life is what it is and I think a lot of clergy need to update their way of thinking/teaching. I'm not saying pre-marital intimacy should be encouraged but it's not going to make you a horrible member of the faith and you're not going to go to Hell if you don't abstain (just my opinion there). Just remember that what's in your heart is what's important, not whether you follow all the right rules.</div><div>
</div><div>And sorry you had to blow up at your team to get that kind of work ethic out of them. Kids today...grrrrrrr!

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sparkles776 · September 2012

mrsk I agree with lovefuzzies! I think if you are living together there is really no way to abstain, but if you do it then you are going to feel bad. We are getting married in a Presbyterian church even though I was raised Catholic, FIs mom is Catholic but Dad is Jewish, so he would have had to convert to get married at my church. Over the past year, we have been going to a lot of different churches, and finally both like the one we are getting married at. At our first marriage counseling session, there was no mention of abstaining and flat out told him we have been living together for about 3 years, our guy didnt seem to care at all which was nice, I thought he was going to boot us out and not approve our marriage hah.

cadamus · September 2012

Confussion:all i wanted to do today was nothing! I wanted to sit on my couch with a pumpkin spice latte reading a book in comfy clothes instead of being at work for 8 hours.

Vent: My mom ended up getting her dress already. She wanted a black dress so bad "bc its good luck" (her words def. not mine) Well I convinced her to look for navy blue bc that is a pretty color on her and it matches my wedding. (My mom was going to navy blue and my fmil was going to do dark grey. They both wanted to do the darker colors of my wedding colors) Well my mom end up getting a black dress. Not very happy. When I think of black dresses I think of funerals!!!!!! I know it's not that way any more but still! She was like well there are blue sparkles on them... there arent really that many sparkles on them. I probably shouldn't really care bc I dont have to wear it put it upsets me a little bc she said that she would get navy.... oh well....

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