Hey ladies, I need some advice. My flower girl is my fiances niece. We've been having small issues with her parents since we asked, but the issues are now growing larger. Her mother sent out an email the other day, with a pic of my flower girl in her dress, and the closing statement was, "this is the only pic I'm sending between now and the wedding." This pic is the only time I've seen her in the dress. A couple of weeks ago I asked her and her daughter to come to my house to get ready, seeing as how all the women would be there. Apparently she neglected to tell her husband and he emails his mother all upset about the wedding schedule. My FMIL calls me, knowing I had talked to her about the schedule and such and suggested I touch base with her again about it. THis evening I emailed her, said hey, just wanted to make sure the schedule was okay with you. Her response, I suppose it's okay. I was thinking of going to do something else that morning (I have a 2:30 ceremony) so I dont know that we'll be able to come over there to get ready. The event she's going to starts at 11:00 am and is an all day thing. From talking to my FMIL they were'nt planning on leaving the event until 1:00! I emailed her back asking what issues she had with the schedule and requested that she bring her daughter to my house prior to the ceremony so that I could see her and approve any hair accessories or hair styles she may have done, seeing as how I have not seen anything in person.
So was I out of line to request seeing her BEFORE we walked down the aisle? This person has caused other very nasty drama and tension between other family members and tried to start very nasty drama between me and my FMIL a few months ago. I need advice! I've already talked to my Fiancee and my FMIL and told them both if they decide they don't want her in the wedding, I'm perfectly okay with it.