Getting Bridesmaids Acquainted

vkayse137 · November 2012

Hi Ladies my 3 sisters and 3 sister in laws to be, 2 friends and a cousin in my wedding. My one friend and 1 cousin live far away. My sister in laws aren't the type to take iniative to reach out to anyone else. My sister is the maid of honor, what is a good way to hint to her to start getting a hold of the girls? I sent her everyone's email and phone #s the other day. None of them know my future sister in laws yet either..

gurrlballa10 · November 2012

Why do they need to get acquainted? They don't have to be BFFFFFFFF's. My BM all met at my bachelorette party (which they so kindly hosted without any prompting from me) and then again at the rehearsal dinner and wedding. .

KatWAG · November 2012

Why do they need to get a hold of each other? You gave them eachother email addresses, let it be. It sounds like every BM will know at least one other person so you will be fine. No one will be a stranger. It is completely acceptable from them to meet at the rehearsal or the day of the wedding.

gundy21 · November 2012

Mine met for the first time at the rehersal. No big deal. One of them (I had 2) wasn't able to make the bachelorette party and I was lucky enough to have two showers - one in the town where I live (hosted by MOH) and the other where my parents live (5 hours away, and my BM helped another friend with that one).

[Deleted User] · November 2012

You gave your sister their info. That's it. Let it be. If they want to meet or plan a party, they will. If they don't, no big deal. They'll meet at the rehearsal or wedding and everyone will be so happy that they'll get along.

itzMS · November 2012

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[QUOTE]You gave your sister their info. That's it. Let it be. If they want to meet or plan a party, they will. If they don't, no big deal. They'll meet at the rehearsal or wedding and everyone will be so happy that they'll get along.
Posted by vonclancy[/QUOTE]

Exactly this.

With 9 bridesmaids, that's a lot of personalities and preferences to contend with.

If someone wants to get involved with dress shopping, planning you a party, etc, they will. It's so easy to reach out to people via Facebook and/or email nowadays. No need to force things along.

What do you think they need to "get acquainted" for?

QueerFemme · November 2012

I'm waiting for OP to come back and explain why they need to get acquainted also. I don't get it.

Kate61487 · November 2012

Ditto PPs; there's no reason they all need to meet.

I don't think it's a bad idea to give everyone each others' emails and not just leave it with your sister; in case one of the other girls wants to reach out, but that's about it. I sent a couple group emails during planning; one to the whole BP about the rehearsal date/time as soon as it was set, another to just the girls asking if they had any opinions on some dress ideas.

Honestly, though, I'm pretty sure my two MOHs friended each other on facebook on their own way before I started any of that. if they want to get in touch they'll figure it out.

cwaggoner07 · November 2012

I was in a wedding with a total of 8 bridesmaids and I didn't even know all of their names until the wedding weekend. With that many girls it's going to be pretty hard to get them to be bff.

Katred08 · November 2012

The OP never said that she wanted all of her girls to be BFFs, whatsoever. She just asked what a good way to get them acquainted was.

That being said, you gave your MOH their phone #s and email addresses, so that's all you really need to do. They'll handle getting in contact for anything that needs coordination between all of them (showers, bachelorette, etc).

arco13 · November 2012

All I did was set up a private group on facebook and added them all to it-and my sister/MOH used that to contact them all and get their info. That's where I'll send them any information about the dress and rehersal dinner dates.

I thought about having a get together with them, but less as "hey, you're all bridesmaids and need to be close!" and more of "hey, school and work are crazy and I miss you all and I want to have a ladies night soon." Maybe you could throw a ladies night at your house, and invite some of them. Anyone who can make it can come, but no pressure if they can't.

mabapunta · November 2012

In my best friend's wedding earlier this month, I was in the WP. We were all scattered across multiple states and really just kept a Facebook chat going among all of us - it really was only for wedding-related stuff, but it was pretty helpful. I didn't meet one BM until the wedding shower/bachelorette party and again at the wedding - it worked out well

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