kids on weddings

marci55 · February 2013

QUESTION. if i don't want kids on weddings do I call people or should I say it on the invite? and how do I tell them. i don't want to sound like I don't like kids.

MoonlightSilver · February 2013

Don't tell people that you don't want kids. That can sound pretty rude. The best way to go about this is to only address the invitations to who you want to show up. So if Sue and Joe Smith have a kid named Matt, you would address the invitation to Mrs. & Mr. Smith. Do not invite "The Smith Family" because that means you're inviting the kid.

If Sue calls up and asks you if little Matt can come, you just apologize and say the invitation was only for Sue and Joe, and you hope they can make it.

missmarry2013 · February 2013

I was told to write "adult reception to follow" and not to address the kids on the invite.

MoonlightSilver · February 2013

Some people think "adult reception" on an invite is rude, though. Your guests should be able to figure out from who's named on the invite, who's invited. Here's (clicky) a good post from the etiquette board.

deanna5776 · February 2013

I have it on my wedding website that its an adult only reception and then on the response card it says no. of Adults attending....but i have been known for not following the "rules" from years and years ago for my wedding at all

good luck

banana468 · February 2013

This is one of those rules that exist for a reason.

DH and I have a child and know how to read. If she's on the invitation, we have the option to bring her and if she's not on there, we find a sitter or decline. It's rude to write out 'adult only' insinuating that we don't know how to read the envelope.

deanna5776 · February 2013

Unfortunately there are a lot of people out there who dont know how to read envelopes....its happened to many of my friends at there weddings unfortunately.....

while most people have the common sense to realize its only for those who's names are on the envelope, some just are not

banana468 · February 2013

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_connecticut_kids-on-weddings?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:65Discussion:2f543a0c-1a73-4601-a080-2d65ac24f375Post:3f4e785e-73bf-4c4b-bc21-1d4b26544379">Re: kids on weddings</a>:
[QUOTE]Unfortunately there are a lot of people out there who dont know how to read envelopes....its happened to many of my friends at there weddings unfortunately..... while most people have the common sense to realize its only for those who's names are on the envelope, some just are not :)
Posted by deanna5776[/QUOTE]

The problem with this is that you're starting off believing that your guests lack common sense.

As annoying as it is, it's better to have the faith that most have common sense and then call those who think that their children are welcome. Yes, it can be annoying but insulting people is worse.

hyechica81 · February 2013

this is the proper way to adress it. if it says mr and mrs green its just you 2 if it says green family its mom dad kids. kind in the same topic if you are single and you get invited to a wedding and it says mr green it means you do not bring a guest. unless it says guest.

marci55 · February 2013

THANK YOU....

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