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aprahamian2aprahamian2
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My mom was asking me today about the best way to have a shower. Our situation is unique in that my parents live in FL, my sis (MOH) is in Chicago, and I'm in Cincinnati. My mom's side is in Cleveland, but typically there is a small showing at family events even if they are in Cleveland. My dad's side and my BMs are spread out too. FI's family is in Cincy for the most part. I don't expect- or want- people to feel like they have to travel for a shower. There is really no central location where everyone would go to if it was held there. Is a shower necessary, and worth the stress of figuring out where to have it? Having multiple showers gets expensive for those throwing them. My mom feels bad about the whole situation and really doesn't know what to do. Any suggestions?
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    bburkelbburkel
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    Will your family be getting together for any other events (ie: Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc)?  Could you piggy back off one of those times when people are already together?  My family is notorious for combining events so people don't have to travel as much.

    Or, you could do a skype shower.  Not exactly sure how it'd work, but could be cool.
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    PJBHL5PJBHL5
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    I think a skype shower would be freaking awesome. And I TOTALLY understand.
    I'm in TX, my parents are now too since they just moved here from So Cal. My FI's family is in LA. My extended family is in Oregon, CA, and PA. My BM is in FL and my other girlfriends who would throw me a shower are in NY, DC, MD. I just finally gave up. LOL
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    melb2013melb2013 member
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    Honestly, this sounds like you just shouldn't have a shower.  This is the exact reason why I decided I didn't want to have one- because the people I would really want to come are too far away and I didn't want them to feel pressured to come to a shower.

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    turtlesloveturtleslove
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    If you want a shower- do one. I know people that have done Skype showers and they worked pretty well! My friend shipped all the gifts to the mommy (it was a baby shower) and they both had friends/family over at each house for snack and what not. Basically, do what ever will get the most people involved and hopefully everyone else will understand...

    If you don't want a shower- don't have one.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_shower-situation?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:c8426493-df2f-4ef6-abd5-c351410ec072Post:b79bdbaf-dac0-4e6f-bec1-7cde2e774df3">Re: Shower situation</a>:
    [QUOTE]If you want a shower- do one. I know people that have done Skype showers and they worked pretty well! My friend shipped all the gifts to the mommy (it was a baby shower) and they both had friends/family over at each house for snack and what not. Basically, do what ever will get the most people involved and hopefully everyone else will understand... If you don't want a shower- don't have one.
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    SRRL18SRRL18 member
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    I'd probably just skip it all together. I'm not big on any showers, except the ones that get you clean.
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    hisbabygirl76hisbabygirl76 member
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    Any chance that you could have something small the night or day or morning before the wedding when more of the guests are around?
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    SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    Showers aren't absolutely necessary, but they're fun :-) Unfortunately with these things, you really can't satisfy everyone. I agree that multiple showers would be expensive, not to mention unnecessary.
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    kmsst48kmsst48 member
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    Skype showers are really popular! When I lived in PHX most of my lady friends where from all over the place and had the same issue. They each did a regular shower and skyped it for everyone to see. They also registered at Amazon which kinda played into the whole alternative shower thing. Both were beautiful and family could still play games and interact. It would take some planning. You could also forget the shower - but, I def wouldn't want to do that! :)
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