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bobbileighbbobbileighb
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Okay so I am sitting here with nothing to do just waiting for the flight from Omaha with some of my favorite people on it to get in! 

As I am sitting here I am getting really nervous about the fact that we havent practiced anything.  Matt and I cant dance, I practiced walking down the aisle (Matt laughed and said I looked like a robot), I even emailed Glenn and cancelled my dance with my mom out of fear of another sway back and forth awkwardly while everyone stares moment.  I worry that since we didnt practice our sand ceremony it will take forever to poor it in.

Did you all have these worries or were you on top of it because you practiced?  If you didnt practice was it awkward or did everything just work out.
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  • bsn1752bsn1752 member
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    edited December 2011
    Did you have a rehearsal?

    I can offer this advice:  STOP WORRYING! 

    But seriously... if you overthink everything that could go wrong, you will worry yourself to death.  My DH and I can dance... but guess what?  We swayed to the music.  :)   His unity candle blew out before the ceremony.  He forgot to bring his vows and he winged it.  One groomsmen was given tuxedo pants instead of real suit pants.  I have NO idea where I held my flowers when I walked down the aisle, and I also walked down too fast.

    See... things happen.  But you know what?  The end result is the same and no one knew the difference!  You will be okay!
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  • bobbileighbbobbileighb
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_omhs-of-still-lurking?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:7c5032ce-b785-44c4-a2a3-d8cc5bce2b4bPost:79a28ed0-491b-492d-a8dd-30b66b761ea8">Re: OMH's I know some of you are still lurking</a>:
    [QUOTE]Did you have a rehearsal?Posted by bsn1752[/QUOTE]

    We have it tonight but Matt is still asleep and no one is in town yet so I am just sitting here twiddling my thumbs which has resulted in me worrying about this crap.
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  • bsn1752bsn1752 member
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    edited December 2011
    There's nothing to worry about, I promise.

    You hired professionals... who are very good at what they do.  Trust them!  They will help you every step of the way!
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  • juliebug1997juliebug1997 member
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    edited December 2011
    Hey, turn on your favorite comedy movie and just let it absorb you.  You can worry yourself to death but it will all work out fine in the end. 

    Please reconsider the dance with your mom.  I love my dad so very much, but I would have done one with my mom if I had known she wouldn't be around for much longer. 
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  • knottie2733fe6844e988e4knottie2733fe6844e988e4 member
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    edited December 2011
    Ohh I can't imagine the stress I think I would be worring too much too. And its easy for me to say not to worry. But everytime you start to worry remember that this day only happens once so just enjoy everything of it. even the not soperfect moments!
    I am sure it will be great!!
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  • angelsong21angelsong21 member
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    edited December 2011
    I know I will be like this right before our big day.  I can relate though through performances in high school (since I'm not even close to my big day yet, I have to find a way to show my advice is semi-applicable LOL).  Everytime I let myself become overly nervous and overthink things, I didnt enjoy any part of the experience.  Instead, if you are nervous but try to move past that, think about other things and not dwell on it, I found that things would come together and I had that confidence level where if I messed up, I could rebound quickly and act like what I had done was intentional and no big deal.  Then no one knew the wiser.  If your unity candle blows out and you flip out in front of everyone and go "oh my gosh, it blew out! oh no, we have to fix it, this is terrible!" versus smiling and moving foward and recovering somehow (making a joke, relighting it or whatever is applicable) no one will know the wiser or they will remember a truly beautiful, unique moment.  Something like this happened at my brother's wedding and it was cute to see their funny facial expressions, everyone laughed and loved it.

    What I'm saying in my ever-so-roundabout way is, RELAX!  Easier said than done, but everything will be beautiful, even if a few small things don't go as planned.  Enjoy the moment, be yourself, take deep breaths, and everything will be great.  You want to soak in every moment; don't lose that becaues you are nervous about every little detail. :)
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  • Summerof09Summerof09
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    edited December 2011
    Bobbileigh- 

    First of all, feel super special that I'm here right now. 

    Secondly, I understand why you're worrying. But, I think you're just freaking out because you're getting married SO SOON! :)

    They told DH and I to go home and practice pouring our sand the night before the wedding. We laughed at them, and made it a huge joke. And then at the ceremony, we joked and whispered to ourselves as we were doing it "we should have practiced!" LOL. But, long story short-you don't need to practice. It will go smoothly. Just pour it slowly, don't try and dump it all in there together, and take turns. He pours a little, then you, then him.

    About the dancing, I can't speak for anyone else, but I know when I was dancing with DH and my dad, it seemed like the whole room melted away, and I didn't notice if I looked stupid, or wasn't dancing right, or whatever. I worried about it a lot before the wedding, though. But when you're in the moment, you won't notice, and nobody else will matter.

    Take a few deep breaths. You'll be ok, and everything will turn out wonderful and you'll look back on today and think "man, I was freaking out and everything ended up going wonderfully!"

    :). 
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  • lesalyriclesalyric member
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    edited December 2011
    We were paged by Brianna that we were needed over here. :)

    I didn't practice ANYTHING! We did a rehearsal, but we basically just walked down the aisle as we felt like it. One of my girls has so little rythym she just freestyled it down the aisle the best she could, totally out of step. No one said anything about it! Everyone just commented on how great the ceremony was.

    Re: the dancing - DH and I dance SO AWKWARDLY together, I mean we just don't mesh well dancing and it was awesome during our dance. Yes, we did some swaying but everyone was having such a good time and it was such a beautiful moment no one cared.

    We are swaying here and it is still awesome:



    Everything will be fine. What is happening is that you have everything so well planned that your brain is looking for anything to freak out about. Don't stress, you will have a beautiful day!

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  • marksle84marksle84
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    edited December 2011
    It's sounds like we have the same personality!
    Take a deep breath, go get some coffee and stop stressing. No matter how the day goes you get to marry a great guy and live happily ever after. Plus, the crazy things that happen are always the most memorable!
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  • serlaceserlace
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    edited December 2011
    Hi Bobbileigh.  You've gotta let go of all this worry about how things will turn out.  I'm the BIGGEST control freak.  During the week of I had to tell myself - screw it.  All that matters is at the end of the day, I will be married to the man I love more than anything else.  All these people will be gone and it will be just the two of us.

    You will rehearse all of this tonight.  If the sand thing took too long, no one would do it.  So, it will probably be okay.  Please re-think the dance with your mom.  I didn't  do a dance with my dad and I really regret it.

    Also, DH and I did not rehearse our dance.  We pretty much swayed.  But, I didn't care.  I was just so damn happy to be married and in the arms of my husband.

    Do not sit there and dwell on these things.  Enjoy these next couple of days.  Take a few deep breaths and occupy your time until your family arrives.  Be happy and know that if all things are not perfect - it won't matter.  :)
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  • Tiffany618Tiffany618
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    edited December 2011

    1.  Don't cancel the dance with your Mom.   Seriously.   I'm a Daddy's girl but we have never danced and aren't the huggy close kind of family.  I thought it would be so awkward, but we swayed and talked and laughed through the whole thing.   One of my favorite moments of the night.

    2.  I've seen the sand done, it doesn't take long.    We did candles and it was really awkward.... we just kind of walked over there, lit them, and walked back.   It doesn't matter though.

    3.  Just relax.  You will float through everything.  It will be the most surreal experience of your life.    Once you rehearse you will feel better, and on the day-of you will be guided by all of your planning.    Besides, Chelsea and Mack definitely won't let you miss a beat....AND Mack was so calming.  Chelsea was all over the place working, but Mack was almost always by our side making sure we were in the right place doing the right thing when it came to the ceremony.

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  • Summerof09Summerof09
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_omhs-of-still-lurking?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:7c5032ce-b785-44c4-a2a3-d8cc5bce2b4bPost:42a7c175-328d-45c1-b222-ad9b88e2afe9">Re: OMH's I know some of you are still lurking</a>:
    [QUOTE]  We pretty much swayed.  But, I didn't care.  I was just so damn happy to be married and in the arms of my husband. 
    Posted by serlace[/QUOTE]<div>
    </div><div>This made me go "awwwwwww" :)

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  • bobbileighbbobbileighb
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks ladies especially those that have jumped ship and stopped back by.

    I dont know why I was thinking everyone but us took dance lessons or was some how naturally great dancers.  I have HORRIBLE anxiety (like to the point that I have medicine for it).  I promised FI that these few days before the wedding would be medication free (he doesnt like how emotionless I get on the medicine) so I think that has something to do with it.  I am about to wake him up and just tell him I need him awake to help me calm down.  I will take your advice and maybe we will go wash his car (after all it needs to look nice for those pretty new rims he doesnt know about :) ) and by then our friends should be in and it will be time to reherse.
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  • Summerof09Summerof09
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_omhs-of-still-lurking?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:7c5032ce-b785-44c4-a2a3-d8cc5bce2b4bPost:d0d5977b-fd19-47cc-be60-563dca4571f8">Re: OMH's I know some of you are still lurking</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks ladies especially those that have jumped ship and stopped back by. 
    Posted by bobbileighb[/QUOTE]

    <div>Anytime :) Thank Brianna, she told us we were needed! </div>
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  • shortgirltxshortgirltx
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    edited December 2011
    We didn't practice anything like dancing or pouring of the wine or drinking wine or any dance.  We hadn't danced in over a year when the wedding rolled around and it wasn't awkward at all.  The last private dance was because DH wanted to go in small circles and I was very dizzy but I wouldn't change either for the world because he was singing along with the song.  You will be SO caught up in the moment you won't even notice nor will you care.  You will just remember that you got married to your husband and you had FUN! 

    We had a hick up or two but we are married now and laugh and I even laughed then.  We did a wine ceremony where DH drank half the glass of wine and I drank the other half.  During the ceremony DH drank his half, I took a sip and handed it back to him still half full.  I didn't realize anything was wrong but DH and BIL just stared at each other thinking "What do we do?  Do I drink it or does he drink it cause it would be awkward to hand it back to her."  DH ended up drinking the rest.  During the ceremony I was so caught up in thinking "I'm getting married" that I wasn't following along very well in our ceremony and there was a part in there where you say "Yes" and DH said it but I didn't so BIL and DH just stared me down until I got the picture.  No one knew what was going on so who cares!

    You don't need fancy steps for your first dance for it to count or anything like that.  Swaying is perfect as long as it works for the two of you. 
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  • bobbileighbbobbileighb
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    edited December 2011
    Thank you Brianna!

    Okay I am offically signing off now and going to go take your advice.
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  • lesalyriclesalyric member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_omhs-of-still-lurking?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:7c5032ce-b785-44c4-a2a3-d8cc5bce2b4bPost:949fab9b-b3ba-4e6f-953e-76b6fa0a2a0d">Re: OMH's I know some of you are still lurking</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thank you Brianna! Okay I am offically signing off now and going to go take your advice.
    Posted by bobbileighb[/QUOTE]

    Yay! Have a great pre-wedding day! You know we will FB-bomb you with love tomorrow, so tty soon! :)
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_omhs-of-still-lurking?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:102Discussion:7c5032ce-b785-44c4-a2a3-d8cc5bce2b4bPost:949fab9b-b3ba-4e6f-953e-76b6fa0a2a0d">Re: OMH's I know some of you are still lurking</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thank you Brianna! Okay I am offically signing off now and going to go take your advice.
    Posted by bobbileighb[/QUOTE]

    You are so welcome! :)

    And yes, prepare yourself for FB bombing tomorrow.
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  • fallbride1109fallbride1109 member
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    Awww, I am too late.  Oh well, you were given great advice already.  I second all of it!  :)
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  • danac2010danac2010
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    edited December 2011
    Bobbileigh,

    We took dance lessons.  Our first dance DH was so nervous he completely forot everything and we swayed and we didn't care.  No one noticed.  We didn't practice our unity candle but DH almost dropped the candle.  I almost slipped down the stairs.  Nothing is perfect!

    Relax everything will be beautiful!
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  • nickandmerrittnickandmerritt
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_texas-dallas-ft-worth_omhs-of-still-lurking?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:102Discussion:7c5032ce-b785-44c4-a2a3-d8cc5bce2b4bPost:d0d5977b-fd19-47cc-be60-563dca4571f8">Re: OMH's I know some of you are still lurking</a>:
    [QUOTE]Thanks ladies especially those that have jumped ship and stopped back by. I dont know why I was thinking everyone but us took dance lessons or was some how naturally great dancers.  I have HORRIBLE anxiety (like to the point that I have medicine for it). <strong> I promised FI that these few days before the wedding would be medication free (he doesnt like how emotionless I get on the medicine) so I think that has something to do with it.  </strong>I am about to wake him up and just tell him I need him awake to help me calm down.  I will take your advice and maybe we will go wash his car (after all it needs to look nice for those pretty new rims he doesnt know about :) ) and by then our friends should be in and it will be time to reherse.
    Posted by bobbileighb[/QUOTE]

    Hey, Bobbi, have you tried drinking any tea? I don't have any advice on the wedding front but just wanted to recommend some tea for anxiety--I swear by this stuff.

    <a href="http://www.republicoftea.com/product.aspx?p=V00721" rel='nofollow'>http://www.republicoftea.com/product.aspx?p=V00721</a>

    You can usually get it at Whole Foods or those types of places, so I'm not sure if you're anywhere that you could get it. That one is my favorite, but Yogi teas also has a kava tea. And if you're near a Starbucks, calm tea is pretty good as well. Feel better.
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