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April 2013 Weddings
Christine9866
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flower girl dress vent
(i posted this earlier, i guess the knot ate it...argghh)
I am stressed/ and confused and need support
My two nieces are in our wedding. We are having my sisters daughter (who will be 2 years old) and my brothers daughter (who will be 7 years old) in the wedding as flower girls.
Back when my dress came in and I had to try it on to make sure everything was okay, my sister in law, my younger sister, and mother came with me. While we were there we found a flower girl dress that I really liked. Very simple white long dress, a little beading on the front, and a lace up back that I can have the ribbon match my color (charcoal grey) The back also matches my dress and the bridesmaid dresses as we all have lace up.
I was excited about it because I was having a hard time in figuring out if I should put the girls in different dresses bc of the difference in age, but was worried that this would not work out (which in the long run i dont think different dresses are going to work because i want the girls to receive "equal" attention and not have anyone treat either girl differently or think that one is cuter then the other) I thought that the dress would be perfect for either age. My sister was not crazy about it, and thought it was too old for her daughter to wear, and every time I bring it up she has been very short with me. So today I asked her about it and she said that "she doesn't care for the dress" but it was my wedding and she does not want to stress me out. But in turn i think i dont want her paying for a dress she doesn't like.
I attempted to show my sister in law some other dresses today without my sister knowing to see what she liked and she thought the ones i liked were too babyish for her daughter. She texted me back with i like the first one but if you guys like the other ones it fines. So i needed to reiterrate that my sister was not involved in this and it was just me.
I feel like its a lose, lose situation. And I am super stressed and confused!
Am I looking too far into it? Here is a picture of the dress I really liked the first time around
thanks for listening
I am stressed/ and confused and need support
My two nieces are in our wedding. We are having my sisters daughter (who will be 2 years old) and my brothers daughter (who will be 7 years old) in the wedding as flower girls.
Back when my dress came in and I had to try it on to make sure everything was okay, my sister in law, my younger sister, and mother came with me. While we were there we found a flower girl dress that I really liked. Very simple white long dress, a little beading on the front, and a lace up back that I can have the ribbon match my color (charcoal grey) The back also matches my dress and the bridesmaid dresses as we all have lace up.
I was excited about it because I was having a hard time in figuring out if I should put the girls in different dresses bc of the difference in age, but was worried that this would not work out (which in the long run i dont think different dresses are going to work because i want the girls to receive "equal" attention and not have anyone treat either girl differently or think that one is cuter then the other) I thought that the dress would be perfect for either age. My sister was not crazy about it, and thought it was too old for her daughter to wear, and every time I bring it up she has been very short with me. So today I asked her about it and she said that "she doesn't care for the dress" but it was my wedding and she does not want to stress me out. But in turn i think i dont want her paying for a dress she doesn't like.
I attempted to show my sister in law some other dresses today without my sister knowing to see what she liked and she thought the ones i liked were too babyish for her daughter. She texted me back with i like the first one but if you guys like the other ones it fines. So i needed to reiterrate that my sister was not involved in this and it was just me.
I feel like its a lose, lose situation. And I am super stressed and confused!
Am I looking too far into it? Here is a picture of the dress I really liked the first time around
thanks for listening
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Re: flower girl dress vent
In my opinion id just go with what you like at this point. I dont think they are going to really cause an uproar over this...they are probably just giving an opinion because you are giving them a voice. on the day your nieces are going to shine in any cute dress. My niece who is going to be 8 made it clear she wanted a different dress because she said shes too old to be a flower girl lol so I made her a jr bridesmaid. but you can totally have them in the same dress and doll them up!
as a suggestion maybe ask them to find dresses that they like. and see if you like any of their options, or else i wouldnt worry too much about it. have your nieces tried the dresses on? maybe that coudl help with the decision process
hope this helps
Not trying to throw a monkey wrench in an already sticky situation. I just know that, as a mom, it's SO hard to buy ahead when they're THAT little. For some sizes, my daughter stayed in them for months and in other sizes she outgrew them in a few weeks. What if you buy the dress now and in 9 months it's way too small? Do you have a backup plan? At that age, you definitely will need one because the sizes fluctuate so erratically.
For what it's worth, I do like the dress, but I can see where it might not look right on a 2 year old. I would have let my dd wear it with no hard feelings as long as it was under $100, but if it's more than that, I would not have been happy at all because she'll never wear it again and that's a lot of money to shell out for a dress you hate. In the end, though, it's YOUR call. Tell them that this is the dress you picked and if they don't like it/don't want to pay for it, you won't be hurt if they decide not to let the girls be in the wedding.
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