Addressing inner envelopes

smccart7 · April 2010

So my parents are basically hosting the wedding, so I assume technically the invitations are from them. I wanted to address the inner envelopes in a less formal manner for family members (ex. Aunt Jane and Uncle Joe), but I'm confused as to if I use the titles that reflect my relationship to the guest or what my Mom's relationship is to them. Like how my aunt is my mom's sister..do we do "aunt" or just "jane". Please help, this is making my head hurt

bridalgal50 · April 2010

banana468...I'm assuming that the outer envelopes will be addressed the traditional, formal way: Mr & Mr Joe Smith

She is asking about the inner envelope.

squirrly · April 2010

I would stick with the traditional method. Mr. and Mrs. Smith for the inner envelope.

smccart7 · April 2010

The invitation is worded as Mr. and Mrs. Parents invite you to attend...so just from my parents. I guess I thought I was being traditional? A few of the sites I looked at said that you do the Mr. and Mrs. Smith for non-relatives, but that for relatives you're supposed to address them by what you call them. I'm perfectly fine with doing Mr. and Mrs. Smith for everyone, but wasn't sure if that was "right" for relatives.

sucrets4 · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_addressing-inner-envelopes-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:dfc0f46e-b18e-4620-b582-a94008ebf268Post:94bb80c7-fdd3-4847-bced-c0692f6ee76d">Re: Addressing inner envelopes</a>:
[QUOTE]banana468...I'm assuming that the outer envelopes will be addressed the traditional, formal way: Mr & Mr Joe Smith She is asking about the inner envelope.
Posted by bridalgal50[/QUOTE]

I'm sure banana gets that and she's saying that it's probably just easier to address the <strong>inner</strong> envelopes in the traditional way.

sucrets4 · April 2010

Why not just use first and last names for the inner envelope?

Outer: Mr. and Mrs. Doe (however you're doing it, if you're including the woman's name or not)

Inner: John and Jane Doe

banana468 · April 2010

I did get that about the outer vs. inner. My point is that I think it's just easier to address things the traditional way.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · April 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_addressing-inner-envelopes-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:dfc0f46e-b18e-4620-b582-a94008ebf268Post:6a792084-ed82-40b8-ba31-ea03f4db1700">Re: Addressing inner envelopes</a>:
[QUOTE]The invitation is worded as Mr. and Mrs. Parents invite you to attend...so just from my parents. I guess I thought I was being traditional? A few of the sites I looked at said that you do the Mr. and Mrs. Smith for non-relatives, but that for relatives you're supposed to address them by what you call them.<strong> I'm perfectly fine with doing Mr. and Mrs. Smith for everyone, but wasn't sure if that was "right" for relatives.</strong>
Posted by smccart7[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah, do it that way. You can do "Jane and John" of you'd like, but it's more casual.

Minimax052910 · April 2010

You do it from whoever's throwing the party's perspective. If your parents are paying for the ceremony, then you address the invitation as if it's from them, not you.

My mother and I just went through this last weekend. We researched online and lot of sites say that it's "more personal" when you address them by how you usually call them. For instance, on the outer envelope, Mr. Robert Smith. On the inner envelope, just "Rob" if people call him "Rob". It makes it more personal. It's also helpful if you have the groom around, because there were several guests that I didn't know that my groom knew, and he was able to tell us what they're usually called.

I find it a little uptight whenever people call me by my full name because nobody call me by my full name, so when they call me by my full name, I just think they don't know me at all.

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