Please give me an ok!

izzyjenni · April 2010

I just finished addressing my wedding invitations and the MOB (mom) gave me some harsh remarks about it. Is it ok if I didn't use a calligrapher? And is it ok that I didn't write out the state and used an abbreviation? I am feeling like it looks nice and I'm a teacher so I have good cursive handwriting. I need a little encouragement after getting an earful from my mom. I just can't do anything well enough...she wants to do everything! I love her but sometimes...

KittE7 · April 2010

I think it's acceptable these days to forego the calligraphy. Hand-written addresses still look really nice!
And... I never thought you were supposed to write out the state names! According to business writing & AP rules, you only write out the state if you don't have it written in conjunction with the city name.

Don't worry. Congrats on finishing those invite addressses!!!

hkiesling · April 2010

State abbreviation is fine. I think even preferred by USPS.

I think a calligrapher is a luxury, not a necessity. Many people are even just printing it out with their computer, and I think that looks okay, too. As long as it's not all scribbly and crooked, who cares?

Bimbi284 · April 2010

I think the fact that your hand wrote all of those invites is INSANE! I mean that in a GOOD way! I personally think that hiring a calligrapher, while it looks lovely and super fancy, is just really not necessary. I personally think its a waste of money. I typed all of our addresses onto envelope wraps...I did use a fancy font though, lol.

As for writing out the state...I would have never even noticed that, and neither will your guests.

Bottom line, this is YOUR wedding...not your mom's. If you love your invites, that is all that really matters! Besides, they'll probably throw out the envelope anyways!

izzyjenni · April 2010

THANKS TO ALL OF YOU! It made me really stop and think...really does it matter in the long run! I think it is so nice to have a place to voice your concerns and frustrations and get affirmation. Especially about your FMIL and MOB. Thanks again!

janderson · April 2010

A calligrapher is ridiculous in my opinion unless it's a very formal, black tie affair. And the state thing... I've never received an invite with the state written out.

Don't worry! Mom's probably just wrapped up in her own wedding stress and doesn't realize she's being a little crazy!

LittleSweetie · April 2010

I handwrote all of our invitations in printing - not even cursive

But I did spell everything out, even Street, Avenue, Saint, Minnesota, etc. Wedding invitations don't follow AP rules, believe it or not!

I think whatever you did is fine and no one will care that much if MN isn't spelled out. And if they do, they don't deserve to be invited to your wedding!

debbieupper · April 2010

"OK" from me, too! Don't let the rules of engagement (hahaha, feelin' punny tonight) stress you out. Totally not a big deal, and your invites are great!

drdifabio · April 2010

100% OK! And I agree with Bimbi that it is awesome that you even handwrote them all! We are likely breaking etiquette and printing labels in a fancy font....that is what we want to do, it is our wedding, so we are doing it

veijes · April 2010

I think it's totally fine to write them out. In my opinion, I think hand writting them yourself is the most personal way to do it, it reflects yourself. I also think that typing them out is fine too. The calligrapher would obviously do a great job but if I got an invite that was done by a calligrapher I would probably just look at it and think "what a waste of money."

On our invites, if I had room I wrote out the state, but if the town name was long, I just wrote MN. People won't notice, I never have when I've received an invite.

wittyschaffy · April 2010

OK from me too. It is an envelope and if anyone sits and analyzes it, they're nuts.

shameless_ad · April 2010

Totally OK! I give you a lot of credit for writing them out yourself! We're probably going to just use the printer and a fancy font to do ours - it's what we did for the STDs too.

golden1215 · April 2010

Totally fine. I mean really, who even remembers what the outside envelope of a wedding invite looks like anyway? Its the pretty inside that you want to see! And writing out Iowa is one thing, writing out Minnesota a million times is a lot longer....

MN_Jen · April 2010

For half (my half) of our invites I printed out cute labels with a fancy font. Because FI kept forgetting to email me his guest list and addresses (I've only been asking for 5 months!) I told him that he was in charge of his own %&*^*&^& invites.

So the other half of them were addressed in his messy boy handwriting. I'm smiling right now just picturing his face if I told him he had to write out the full words.

MoriaMN · April 2010

And this is why I love this board. I was just quoting calligraphers, but based on this post and another one about wrap labels, I'm totally reconsidering. Jenni-handwriting the invites yourself is above and beyond in my opinion. I think your mom is missing the point. The cool thing about handwriting is the amount of effort/time commitment it demonstrates that adds the weight of importance to the invitation. You have the blessing of nice penmanship, so you are lucky to not have to find a way to avoid destroying your invitations with chicken scratch like mine.

brimaven · April 2010

Just tell your mom if SHE wants to pay someone to write them out professionally...
I think you did just fine.

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