I had my first disagreement with FI this past weekend over our guest list. I have known since we started planning that we both have huge close immediat families and we would have close to 200 people invited. This includes out to 1st cousins and a few very close friends.
We split it down the middle and we each got 100 invitations. He has invited a lot of people he "used to hang out with" which was fine with me as long as we stayed under the 200 people. We have actually maxed out at 225, with some compromise.
Then he comes home after work Friday and says "I saw Lori at WalMart on my way home and she said she's looking forward to the wedding"
This is a girl he used to work with, rarely ever sees and I don't really know at all. No jealousy on my part, no reasons for it, but I looked at him and said No, she's not invited. He's like she'll get mad and be hurt. And I counterwith, "I really don't care, neither one of us "know" her that well, you haven't worked with her in several years, no she is not getting an invitation. We are already maxed out and 25 people over our plans."
He then countered with she'll be hurt if we don't invite her. I said "J, you have already invited friends you rarely see, but I haven't said anything since these are guys you grew up with, but this time its No. Unless you want to remove someone from the list. I'm still looking at ways to cut people (no STD or Inviations sent, just a working list) He then says what do I tell people when they ask about it, and thanks to you ladies I had an answer....."unfortunately our budget doesn't allow for us to invite everyone we'd like, so we are having a very small wedding" (whether or not this is true). Then, J, you change the subject or walk away!
I will say that wasn't easy to do. He casually know about 1/2 the county he lives in from work one way or another!
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