Like many brides I worked hard and imagined my big day would be perfect. Of course, reality hit and a few things went wrong. Most of them can be looked back with laughter. However, there is one thing that sometimes makes my husband lose sleep at night and makes me wish we could go back in time but I put on a false "don't feel bad" face. He chose the wrong best man. He chose who he thought was his best friend of two years at the time. Things unravelled a few months later with his wife causing an uproar and he taking her side on her angry two faced ways. His best man was the most influential man in his life at the time but he regrets he did not do more to put the most influential man in his life of all time as his best man. My husband originally asked his gran-dad, the most influential man in his life, but he said "I'm sure you can find someone else", if my husband were a little more persistent he would have done it. The best man (led by his wife) screwed us over and spit us out months after the wedding. Now when I look at a wedding party picture I am filled with regret.
There is a nice picture of my hus band standing next to his gran-dad and although he is 82 and couldn't do as much as someone younger, my husband looks so proud standing by him.
I know I can't change the past and his granddad has no hard feelings whatsoever. I just don't want my husband feeling this guilt. I guess I would feel a little better if anyone had similar stories.
My husband and his grandfather.