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honeymoon/wedding night question
and we are leaving right aafter the reception... We have waited to be together intimatly until we are married, and I am started to get very nervous, as to what to expect. I want to look nice, I am trying to think how the night will go as soon as we arrive at our hotel (its a 3 hour drive) any advice? Thanks!
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Re: honeymoon/wedding night question
Whatever you hatters be hattin. -Tay Prince
Good luck!
Whatever you hatters be hattin. -Tay Prince
[QUOTE]Oh, I didn't even see the shower suggestion. That's a good one. FI and I shower together all the time, and 95% of the time it has nothing to do with sex. It's a nice way to be close to somebody.
Posted by laurenclaire1386[/QUOTE]
Ditto! FI & I do this a lot too! And it's good for the environment! :)
[QUOTE]I say don't PLAN anything. Let everything just happen". But I do think that a bath might be a little less ackward. In the shower, they will both just be standing there looking at each other. :P
Posted by MISSCOURTNEY20[/QUOTE]
Showers are awesome: scrub my back, help wash each other.... It can be interactive. :)
Also, depending on the size of the bath tub, baths can be awesome, or super uncomfortable.
I second the motion of not trying to plan anything out in advance and let things progess naturally. Your body will know what to do, don't try to force it and make sure to communicate to him if he's going too fast or if it hurts and you need him to stop so you can adjust.
I assume that even if you're a virgin you go to the gyno? Make an appointment and have the doctor check your hymen. Not to get graphic and totally freak you out but I had to have sex three times before it "popped" and it hurt a bunch. Your doc could even pop it for you so you don't have to worry about the messy part...not a bad idea if you're not squeemish!
[QUOTE]Maybe not the bath unless it's one of those huge spa tubs. One of my friends in college was going to take a bath with her BF on Valentine's day, and when she got out of the tub, she scraped her back on the faucet and had to get stitches. First times should not involve trip to the ER.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
Holy night from hell.
Wow, that really sucks.
[QUOTE]Maybe not the bath unless it's one of those huge spa tubs. One of my friends in college was going to take a bath with her BF on Valentine's day, and when she got out of the tub, she scraped her back on the faucet and had to get stitches. First times should not involve trip to the ER.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
<div>Ouch, that made me cringe!</div>
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[QUOTE]Maybe not the bath unless it's one of those huge spa tubs. One of my friends in college was going to take a bath with her BF on Valentine's day, and when she got out of the tub, she scraped her back on the faucet and had to get stitches. First times should not involve trip to the ER.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
Sheesh! That's a V-Day to remember for sure.
OP, just take your time getting ready and let things happen naturally. Hopefully, the long car ride will help you relax a little after the reception and talk and have fun with each other. I guess, it could also make you both anxious knowing where you're going and what you're doing... Apparently I'm not very good at advice today.
I vote for shower or jacuzzi (but don't try anything until you're outta there).
[QUOTE]Maybe not the bath unless it's one of those huge spa tubs. One of my friends in college was going to take a bath with her BF on Valentine's day, and when she got out of the tub, she scraped her back on the faucet and had to get stitches. First times should not involve trip to the ER.
Posted by goheels05[/QUOTE]
OMG, I can sympathize with your friend! I was washing our tub and scraped my lower back on the faucet. No stitches needed, but it was very ugly and bruised for quite a while! So glad it wasn't something that happened to me in an intimate moment with my FI!
Learned that one the hard way, but it was amusing to see how high the bubbles went. Thank God it was a hotel.
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Especially if you're like me and my FI, he's a foot taller than me and it just doesn't work. At all. And even if you get into the right position, it's awkward and uncomfortable and not fun. At all.
If you want too look nice liek bodywise, like others said just feel as comfortable as you can because confidence helps. Maybe if you're not sure if your nether area has an acceptable situation going on, go get a nice little wax. Then you won't have to worry about that at all.
And if you want lingerie, again get something that you feel comfortable in but you also feel sexy in.
[QUOTE]I know a bunch of PPs mentioned shower, which might be a good idea..<strong>.but DO NOT TRY IT IN THE SHOWER! </strong>Especially if you're like me and my FI, he's a foot taller than me and it just doesn't work. At all. And even if you get into the right position, it's awkward and uncomfortable and not fun. At all. If you want too look nice liek bodywise, like others said just feel as comfortable as you can because confidence helps. Maybe if you're not sure if your nether area has an acceptable situation going on, go get a nice little wax. Then you won't have to worry about that at all. And if you want lingerie, again get something that you feel comfortable in but you also feel sexy in.
Posted by kaynix21[/QUOTE]
We're not saying to have sex in the shower, we're saying to take a nice shower together.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: honeymoon/wedding night question : Wait, wait, wait...you can shower together and it have nothing to do with sex? Clearly I'm doing something wrong. Every time we shower together it leads elsewhere. It's a bit annoying - sometimes I do want to get clean!
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
Heh. We just shower together sometimes. It saves time and water. If we both want to shower at the same time, we just shower at the same time. Particularly in the mornings. If I got up earlier, we wouldn't have to shower together, but we get in a crunch for time and it's just the easiest thing to do. FI is capable of seeing me naked and not wanting to do me on the spot. Which isn't a bad thing at all.
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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: honeymoon/wedding night question : Wait, wait, wait...you can shower together and it have nothing to do with sex? Clearly I'm doing something wrong. Every time we shower together it leads elsewhere. It's a bit annoying - sometimes I do want to get clean!
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
Actually, my FI gets mad at me if i get in the shower without asking if he wants to join first. It's our MO. I'm not sure how it started, but it's almost a daily thing. So being that common, it usually doesn't lead to anything more - except for certain, ahem, parts, coming out cleaner than others, LOL.
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