Help! I just wrote the church lady where I'm getting married and asked her some questions about whether there will be kneelers and where we will be sitting and she replied that the bride and groom and the entire wedding party will only be kneeling and standing the entire Mass. We never sit and we apparently stand in front of the altar for the entire Mass.
I'm am really really freaking out about this. First of all, every Catholic wedding i've ever been to, the bride and groom get to sit down in two chairs on the right of the altar when everyone else sits except for the vows.
I've planned a lot of really great music from a professional choir and I am so excited about the music. But, some of it is long. I can't even imagine getting to enjoy the music let alone getting to enjoy the ceremony when i'm standing there in heels in front of everyone for an entire hour. I'll be standing for pictures, standing for the mass and then I'm supposed to dance the night away? All I'll be thinking about the entire ceremony is when will it finally be over so I can just sit down. I feel so angry and upset over this and i don't know wny they would make everybody stand the whole time. It's just stupid.
What can I do? I really want to make this different somehow. Do you think if I talk to the priest or the other church lady (there's two and the other one's nicer) I could somehow have it changed? Do I have any ground to stand on? What would you advise I do?