Is there any way to politely decline a bridal shower? My MOH and FMIL want to throw me two separate showers, one for my friends and family, and one for FI's friends and family. I'm uncomfortable enough with being the center of attention at the wedding and wanted a destination wedding, but I lost that debate. We also have all the "stuff" we need and then some, as we've been living together for 6 years already. We were not planning to register unless we come under significant pressure to do so. It seems like two bridal showers would make a registry much more necessary.
I've mentioned before that I don't want any showers, but I think my FMIL took that as simple modesty, not really seriously. Is there a tactful way to explain that the idea of a shower makes me really uncomfortable? I don't handle being given gifts well at the best of times and the wedding has me nervous enough - two showers would be really stressful! Not to mention one of them would be all people I don't know well at all.
Thanks ladies.. FMIL is talking January and only mentioned it last night, so I still have time to nip it in the bud, but I'm not convinced there's a way to do so without seeming ungrateful for the offer.