After reading account after account of how brides regret their bridal party choices because they were made too early my fiance and I decided that we are going to wait until the first of the year before we make any choices. We have an idea of who we would like and all but I just figured that I could go solo for a little bit and that would be just fine and dandy with everyone.
Well apparently I was wrong...
Today I went for a walk with one of my cousins that I have always had a good relationship with. When we were done with our walk we were standing by my car and she out of the blue said "I'm in your bridal party right? To which I quickly responded with my automated answer "We have not asked anyone to be in our bridal party yet."
But then she went on to say that she couldn't believe that I hadn't asked her yet and how if she wasn't asked she would be really hurt and how she would expect this out of our other cousin but not me...
I tried to explain to her why we hadn't chosen but she continued to try and guilt me into an answer. Our coversation ended with her telling me that if she wasn't chosen that she would probably still come.
Probably?!
Needless to say my feelings are really hurt
So does anyone have any advice on what I should/say if it comes up again? To be honest she is not by first pick even though we are fairly close.