My horrible e-pics.

blahblah85 · December 2011

I am seriously about ready to cry. I HATE how fat I look in my e-pics. I wish someone had told me the shirt was horrible. I wish someone had told me my shapewear would make me look like I have tits on my back. I am mortified.

I can't copy/paste from the site, so go ahead and take a look at what you should NOT WEAR. I need a drink.

http://strombeckphoto.smugmug.com/Portraits/Amanda-and-Nate/20516742_jXp2pD#1624952017_bhn72v6

starree444 · December 2011

You need to blame your photographer for some of this. They used bad angles as well.

mollyehren · December 2011

I think they look fine but if you really them I would maybe watch the discount sites like groupon or livingsocial where you could get them done again. Or you could speak to your photographer, he might be willing to redo them. A few positions he put you in maybe were not the best choices. If your photographer won't work with you it maybe it is a sign you need to find another. While it might seen terrible be glad it is not your actual wedding photos. By the way shapewear helps but it is not a miracle, especially in really casual clothing. I would maybe try an a-line dress, I know it helped me out alot with my photos

blahblah85 · December 2011

The photog is a professional photog, but he is also my fiance's close childhood friend. If I bitch about it my fiance gets annoyed. I can't get rid of him. I am very upset.

Kome2012 · December 2011

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[QUOTE]The photog is a professional photog, but he is also my fiance's close childhood friend. If I bitch about it my fiance gets annoyed. I can't get rid of him. I am very upset.
Posted by blahblah85[/QUOTE]

And this is why you use a pro you don't have a relationship with. Mixing business and pleasure = not good.

kwrecks · December 2011

They aren't bad. You are generally harder on yourself than others will be. The thing that sucks with shapeware is that while it makes your stomach flat and your waist smaller, the fat that is being sucked in has to go somewhere. So it generally will bulge out the top, or make your legs or hips look big. I wouldn't worry, they look fine!!

StephBeanWed61502 · December 2011

They're really not horrible overall, and you have some great shots in there! That said, I agree with PPs - this is primarily your photographer's fault... it's the photographer's job to recognize which angles aren't working and to come up with different ones, and yours didn't. I would definitely talk with him about this, not in a "hey you screwed up" way, but in a "I feel like some of these pictures didn't catch me from my most flattering angles. How can FI and I help you make sure that doesn't happen at the wedding?" I would hope that, as a professional, he'd be able to handle a conversation like that.

Karenofcourse · December 2011

I do not know you and after viewing them, I agree with previous post that most of it is due to bad camera angles. I understand that it is your FI's friend and it would probably greatly help for you to make a list of why you do not like these. Then, sit down with photographer and just state you have concerns that you wish to address before the wedding photos. You can tell him in a very tasteful way and provide it in writing. For example, you do not want any photos that are shot up angle b/c that only makes anyone look bigger. You do not want total side profile shots.

Lots of professional photographers take bad pix. Might as well make the best of the situation and sit down and talk it over with the photographer.

bruna29 · December 2011

I'm sorry you think they turned out so bad.

For what it's worth, I think they look really great. I agree with Ritzy that your photographer should've used some better angles and positioning, but overall, I think most of the pictures turned out nice.

I agree with mollyehren that you could always look for some great deals online and get them done again. I would still speak to your photographer and tell him/her how unhappy you are.

doopie1221 · December 2011

They aren't that bad. Some of them came out really nice, for example the one of the two of you on what looks like a bridge is beautiful. As someone who owns and manages a company, the first rule is NEVER mix business and personal, because you will always run into a problem. This is why I never hire friends or family. That said, it's nice of your FI's friend to offer to do the pics but now you have an issue that is sensitive and you need to tread lightly. In this case I don't blame the photog. As someone mentioned before, the shapeware is not a miracle worker and neither is the photog. Believe me there are plenty of pics of myself that I absolutely hate, but that's how I looked on that day,Good, bad or indifferent. If you're truly not happy then do them again. There isn't a rule that says, sorry no do overs.

smwagner70 · December 2011

I would get a different photographer for the wedding, he just didn't do a good job.

As PP said don't mix business with personal, we hired an employee at DH's resaurant to do our pics and everything went fine until I found out after the wedding what poor customer service she had, it ended up a disaster.

Your pics aren't that bad but honestly I would do them over, maybe color and straighten your hair, and find a more flattering shirt you like. Find another photographer, I'm a bigger girl than you and my e-pics came out fine. Your a beautiful girl!

sweetcanadian1979 · December 2011

is that all you got for pics? is this photog your photog for the wedding? i would not be happy with the pics, not saying you look horrible, but bad angles, not enough poses etc for me. Your wedding dress is gorgeous though & you look really small in it, you picked a nice flattering dress so i think you will feel awesome on your wedding day which is the most important thing (besides marrying your fiance of course) but i would not want this photog as my wedding photog. I am a bigger girl & my e-pics were awesome, they should make you feel good!

Grits8812 · December 2011

i agree with others on looking for a different photographer. we all judge ourselves harder than others, and i persnally think a lt f them are great! but if you are unhappy with his work, stop it know, rather than end up with wedding pictures you dont like.

blahblah85 · December 2011

Well, I got a few beers in me, and told my fiance that I don't feel like I look nice in the pics. Which is funny...he said he thinks I look good, and he looks bad in the pics.

There are more pics, and I guess they can be edited more. I'm just horrible at making myself look good. I'm more angry at myself for not asking someone other then my fiance if I looked nice. Hopefully the photog can soften the bulging some. I don't know what can be done about the hair. It was really windy out that day. I don't care for my smiles in most of the pics. I'm just disapointed in them, but I feel like if I could do a redo with the same photog I could get much better pics just by changing what I was wearing, my makeup, ect ect ect. Ugh.

And yes. He is our wedding photog. We are already in a contract, and I am not going to put my fiance's relationship with his friend at risk over our pics

smwagner70 · December 2011

Well if your stuck with him for the wedding then you need to be upfront and honest with him about what your going to want for the wedding. There are no do overs for the wedding pictures!

Maybe ask him if you can put the dress on and do a few practice shots before the wedding, make sure he's getting the angles you want. I was surprised how much shadowing from the shade there was in your e-pics. Hopefully he does a better job with the lighting. See if he's willing to bring a second photographer to the wedding?

Pictures were the most important thing to me other than getting married and although I liked a lot of them, some of the pics were lost and I ended up with hardly any closeups, and she did a terrible job posing the family pictures. I so wish I could go back and do it over!

mollyehren · December 2011

My photographer does a bridal session about a week before the wedding when your trial hair and makeup are nice and fresh.I would see if you can do your bridal photos in advance too so you can see how they turn out so if any adjustments need to be made they can be done before the wedding

becka717 · December 2011

I think some of them are really cute. I can see how you would not be so fond of some others. If some were cropped to more of just a face shot they would be super cute.

In the first couple pictures it almost looks like you are slouching. I think if you work on your posture during pictures you might like them better. There are also other little tips, like placing your feet a certain way that usually result in better pictures.

Could you say that you really want some pictures with snow on the ground? Then you would get a chance for more pics and you could wear a cute pea coat or structured sweater. Looks like your jeans fit well, that is one of my big worries about my e-pics.

beckster5551 · December 2011

First, you are going to go be way harder on yourself and see things that no one else is going to see. I didn't like my e-pics either and hated the outfit that I wore. Everyone loved the pic I used for the STD's and of course FI loved the way I looked.

I agree with PP that you shouldn't mix business with personal. We had two vendors that where friends and one was awesome and the other one wasn't! Funny thing is, the one that we didn't like, is the one we paid! The other one did it as his wedding gift. FYI, we are no longer friends with the friend that we paid and did an awful job.

brilar · December 2011

I felt the same way the first time I took my e pics ......I picked the wrong shirt and it was a mess ....I asked my photographer to retake them and she did ......They turned out GREAT.....I was so happy the second time

hlevine · December 2011

Ditto to what others said - the photographer should know what angles and lighting look flattering.

I really like the ones of you guys in that stone tower thingy (I'm sorry not sure what it is). You two look really happy.

Pictures are hard because you pay for them and you just want them to look amazing...I don't know about you, but I was really nervous before we did the e-pics, just because we don't really do photo shoots like that.

Try taking more pics and my photog said a flattering pose is to put all your weight on one hip/leg and put your hand on your hip. Also, if you put your hands on your waist it pulls it away from your body and makes your arms look slimmer. There are probably certain times of the day that have the best light as well...

Good luck!!!

mari0225 · December 2011

Awww, there are some really pretty shots in there so just pick the best ones that you're happy about. I would wait and calm down and look at them again and try to be more objective. You and your FI look so happy and really that's all that matters. Since the photographer is a friend of FI's maybe ask if you can do more shots in a different outfit, I had about 4 different outfits when I did mine, FI laughed but it made me feel good, plus my photographer is a woman so she understood.

entropicbeauty · December 2011

If you are stuck using this photographer for your wedding, there are some steps you can take to make sure the day-of photography turns out more to your liking.

I've taken wedding photos before and as a photographer it can be hard to get "all" the angles, BUT if you give feedback while the photographer is working it can help you get what YOU want out of it.

Example: If you see the photographer kneeling down to get a low angle, STOP them! EVERYONE looks better from a slightly elevated viewpoint, and particularly plus size women look much better this way.

I would sit down with the photographer and review the e-pics with him and give him feedback. Point out specific things that bother you about the photos (example: The angle you shot from here where my arm comes across my front exposing my back is very unflattering, can you reposition me if you notice that my back is revealed at this angle?)

If you have photos of yourself that you love, bring them along and also show them to the photographer so they can understand what you feel your "best looks" are.

The good news is the photographer actually does for the most part understand composition and is at least properly exposing the shots.

jennOK · December 2011

That is not a good photographer. Those are horrible angles.

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