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Bridesmaid Questions

Krysta6Krysta6 member
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How far from your wedding date did you ask your bridesmaids? I've been trying to wait (I've heard horror stories) but I'm starting to feel like I'm going to burst not talking to my girls about being in the wedding!

Also I'm not planning on picking a maid of honor. I don't have a "best friend" right now so I was going to just pick all bridesmaids will that be ok? When it gets closer to the wedding can I just ask one of them to give a toast?
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  • CandisHCandisH
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    edited December 2011
    You have plenty of time in my opinion...
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  • waterroxy17waterroxy17
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    edited December 2011
    you can ask at any point, just make sure you ask 5-6 months in advance so they can order their dresses. I knew who would be in mine, so i asked right away HTH
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  • PattyJosePattyJose member
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    edited December 2011
    The sooner the better. It is very exciting for friends to find our they are BM in your wedding. In regards to the toast, I think you should tell whoever you want to do the toast ahead of time. Sometimes last minute speeches make people nervous.
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  • Krysta6Krysta6 member
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    edited December 2011
    PattyJose- I was talking about asking someone like a month or 2 in advance about the toast. Not last minute. That would make me panic!

    I was definitely going to hold off until at least a year before.
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  • lgrn22lgrn22
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    edited December 2011
    I asked at our engagement party. We have a year to go but wanted them to know and I was excited to ask. You have time but make sure they have enough time to plan on the bridal shower or bachelorette party if you are going to have one. And also to get the dresses. Definitely let the person you want to give the toast a heads up ahead of time.
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  • twinkle82576twinkle82576 member
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    edited December 2011
    I asked pretty much rite away. I knew who I wanted and didn't hesitate.
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  • Moonstar713Moonstar713
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    edited December 2011
    I would wait about a month or 2 after you get engaged to get a feel how your girls take your engagement (cuz things change when its your turn to shine). I told 4 of my best girls right away and I am down to 3 now lol. But I don't regret asking the friend I lost, things happen. I also don't have an MOH, and that's definitely a decision I don't regret. The 1 BM I lost was planning my BS and she would have made a great MOH, but I also knew we hadn't been friends too long, so THANK GOD I didn't ask. Now that she's out, not a single girl has step up, I doubt I would be getting a BS now, unless I plan it and I can barely plan a wedding.
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  • rachelearachelea
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    edited December 2011
    I already knew who I was asking before HE even asked ME haha. So when I called those girls to let them know FI has proposed, my way of phrasing the news to them was "So, would you like to be a bridesmaid?" The pause on the other end of the phone while they processed what I said was priceless. That being said, we set the wedding date for 10 months after the proposal, so we started with less time then what you're at now.
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  • lyndopolyndopo
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    edited December 2011
    I asked a year out.
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  • anaroo87anaroo87 member
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    edited December 2011
    i think you're fine on timing and I don't think it matters that you don't have an MOH (I'm personally not having a bridal party at all). You never know, you might grow close with one of the girls over the next year and they may be very willing to give a toast at the wedding anyways.
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  • cramo003cramo003
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    edited December 2011
    We are getting married around the same time :) I think I might use your idea of leaving out a MOH and just having one of the BM make a toast. Btw, I am giving my future BM the news after the new year.
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