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Ceremony or Mass?

JennygurlJennygurl
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Hi everyone,
Our deacon gave us the option to have a Mass or ceremony only.  It seems the only difference would be that the ceremony would not include communion.  If we went with a mass, I would be the only one in the wedding party that would be able to receive communion....so my question is, should I just go with a ceremony? If I went with a mass, would that seem awkward?

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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    If you are unable to receive Communion, then I would skip the full mass. Usually that is what is recommended if both parties (husband and wife) cannot partake. Some couples still opt for Communion, but it is generally not recommended by the priests.
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  • mica178mica178 member
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    edited December 2011
    Talk it over with your FI.  How would you feel about not having a full Mass and taking Communion after your vows?  How would he feel about not being able to take communion at the wedding?
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    edited December 2011
    OP - also try catholicweddinghelp.com

    That site has a lot of really useful info while trying to plan your ceremony.
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  • bibliophile2010bibliophile2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    Is your FI Catholic? It doesn't sound like he is from your OP. If that is the case, I would probably go with just the ceremony. I wouldn't feel comfortable marking the beginning of my marriage by *not* sharing communion with him. That said, I would really talk it over with him and let that guide you.
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  • Calypso1977Calypso1977 member
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    edited December 2011
    if your FI is ok with not receiving, id go for the Mass.  if he has strong reservations about the fact he cant receive, then do the ceremony.
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  • JennygurlJennygurl
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks everyone! My FI was baptized Catholic but hasn't made any of his other sacraments and is ok with not receiving communion.  I think we may just end up going with the ceremony....
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  • doctabroccolidoctabroccoli member
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    edited December 2011

    Does your priest know that your FI hasn't had all of his sacraments?  We are having a full mass (despite my FI being Methodist), but I know that some priests will not do a full mass if both parties aren't fully Catholic.

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  • IrishcurlsIrishcurls member
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    edited December 2011
    We are having a full mass, even though FI is a non-practicing Lutheran. It was really that important to me, and fine with him (though his parents are sort of freaking out). Ultimately it needs to be something that you and he are most comfortable with--personally I don't have an issue with guests being bored or uncomfortable--it's our wedding sacrament. But not everyone agrees, so you have to do what is best for the two of you. 
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  • SoHappyToBeMrsCSoHappyToBeMrsC
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/cultural-wedding-boards_catholic-weddings_ceremony-mass?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Cultural%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:615Discussion:6edac10e-a775-4390-a328-773d594f533fPost:f96d7502-a509-4175-ac91-9061336ebda1">Re: Ceremony or Mass?</a>:
    [QUOTE]if your FI is ok with not receiving, id go for the Mass.  if he has strong reservations about the fact he cant receive, then do the ceremony.
    Posted by Calypso1977[/QUOTE]


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