Seeing FI before the Ceremony?

stanley328 · April 2012

I'm noticing a trend recently that couples are opting to see each other before the wedding, take pics and stuff together before the ceremony. I'm very traditional and I want the excitement/butterflies/anticipation of waiting until the ceremony to see the FI.

What is everyone doing?

20pearls16 · April 2012

I think I am going to be old fashioned too. I think the FI wants the suspense too.

Kello4221 · April 2012

I don't think its bad luck - but we aren't going to see each other before the ceremony.

jelybeancg · April 2012

H was totally against seeing each other before. A cute trend I do like is the "first look" pictures without actually seeing each other. Paprika did it and the pics are so sweet!

jessa1228 · April 2012

We will be doing a first look, and we plan to take the majority of our portraits before the ceremony.

broodc2 · April 2012

We have gone back and forth on this topic numerous times with both of us flip-flopping. I think we're going to end up doing the "first look" for a few different reasons. Yes, the pictures of it are very touching but that's not the main reason we're probably going to do it.
I'm not sure how your couples dynamic is, but I know that when I see my bride I'm going to want to gush about how beautiful I know she's going to look. I want to be able to give her my unencumbered reaction to how stunning I know she will look. That includes huge smiles, hugs, kisses (the kind that don't mess up the makeup), and I'll probably want to twirl her too or something stupid like that. Bottom line, I'll want to react in a way that I wouldn't be able to react or feel 100% comfortable reacting while standing at the alter in the big formal catholic cathedral with all the pomp and circumstance of the moment. It seems like, from the videos I've seen, that both bride and groom are forced to remain bottled up when they finally see each other for the first time at the alter and we don't want to have to do that.

As we thought about it more, we both agreed that it would be nice to have a quite moment between the two of us right before the ceremony. That day is so crazy and so hectic before and after the ceremony that we feel it will be nice to have a semi-private, relatively calm moment to really take in what we're about to do. Kind of like the team huddle before running on to the field for the superbowl!

BrideLaurenH · April 2012

I don't believe that it's bad luck but FI and I are on the same page that we aren't going to see each other. Although, it would be nice to have that semi-private moment beforehand I think we'll stick with old-fashion with this one.

stanley328 · April 2012

Great comments! I do like the idea of taking pics without seeing each other. We may have to come up with some clever ways to do that.

Johnsonk313 · April 2012

Were not going to do a first look. I'm extra old fashion too, and I want that moment of coming down the aisle and seeing him for the first time at the end of it

SharEtoBe · April 2012

My FI and I both agreed that although the quiet time of a first look is nice, we are old fashioned and want to wait to see each other at the ceremony. I love thinking about appearing at the end of the aisle and seeing my FI and him seeing me for the first time in my dress.

BlissPhilly · April 2012

We don't want to do a first look but we don't think it's bad luck either.

becky1313 · April 2012

i was on the fence..if we were getting married at the venue, then I would want to do the pic's beforehand.. just so we could enjoy cocktail hour and what not...
but since it looks like church will work out, we won't be.
I am old fashined.. and not...... i love the idea of the first look pic's.. but really how natural is that.. with at least one photographer taking pictures of the moment!

whatever you choose.. it will be a perfect day!

lczabator · April 2012

I would love to wait until I walk down the aisle. However, we are having our ceremony at our venue, so we won't have any downtime between ceremony and cocktail hour, and we want to be able to attend cocktail hour and enjoy it! So, we're going to see each other beforehand.

[Deleted User] · April 2012

We plan on seeing each other beforehand and taking most of our pictures before the ceremony. (Ceremony and reception are in the same place). This is mostly b/c we are having an early evening ceremony in the winter and if we wait until after the ceremony, we won't have any daytime pictures! Plus enjoying the cocktail hour is a must for me!

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