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To be pissed or not?!

polim22polim22 member
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All of the females in my office are 65+ so often I can't bounce things off them - since we can't relate (different times/different worlds).  Anyway - long story short...  Fiance was going to Laconia for bike week with three of his close guy friends. No big deal, he goes every year - guys weekend - whatever.

Just found out two of the three other guys going have brought their wife/significant other.  They didn't mention anything ahead of time - no notice.  They just showed up. So now its not "guys" weekend".   Not that I could have gotten to take a vacation day on short notice - but it would have been nice to have the choice.  Part of me is really annoyed by this.  One of the woman going I am really friendly with and she never mentioned a thing. She has two small children - so she had to know for awhile to make arrangements for them.

Would anyone else be annoyed? Or is it just me?
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  • AllAboutTheBenjaminAllAboutTheBenjamin member
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    I've actually been in that kind of situation before and yeah, it totally feels shitty.
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  • KateJ10KateJ10
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    I would probably be annoyed he didn't say anything if he did know ahead of time. 


    But then again, I would be REALLY annoyed if I was the one guy there by myself and everyone else had brought a significant other with them on what was supposed to be a guys trip.
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  • brilibby4brilibby4 member
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    Yeah, I would definitely be annoyed.  I'm sorry you are missing out on the trip!
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  • Matty143Matty143
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    I would be a little hurt, that sucks, I'm sorry.

    I agree with Kate too, I would be so annoyed if I was the only there riding solo.
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  • polim22polim22 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_to-be-pissed-or-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:02718cee-3d1a-452f-9296-4a42f6b9f59ePost:dc958dfb-33d1-4e00-809f-03b9a2d614f0">Re: To be pissed or not?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]I would be a little hurt, that sucks, I'm sorry. I agree with Kate too, I would be so annoyed if I was the only there riding solo.
    Posted by Matty143[/QUOTE]

    He is the guy without his significant other. And NO ONE told him either.  It's kind of messed up.  I'm still wondering what I should say (if anything) the next time I see these chicks. It was supposed to be GUYS WEEKEND.  It always is.
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  • KateJ10KateJ10
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    so, there are 3 guys going, and the other 2 are bringing their SO's? or are 4 guys going? I am confused here. 
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  • polim22polim22 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_to-be-pissed-or-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:02718cee-3d1a-452f-9296-4a42f6b9f59ePost:67d58d4e-3ce2-413d-ac5a-b26cd0bc9232">Re: To be pissed or not?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]so, there are 3 guys going, and the other 2 are bringing their SO's? or are 4 guys going? I am confused here. 
    Posted by KateJ10[/QUOTE]

    4 guys in total.  Two with their girls.  The other guy doesn't have a girlfriend or wife.  He is the one who owns the house that they are staying in.  He was looking forward to spending time with his friends - since no one has time any more.  He just got out of a relationship so was looking to hang with his guy friends.

    It totally changed the dynamic for the weekend.
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  • brilibby4brilibby4 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_to-be-pissed-or-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:02718cee-3d1a-452f-9296-4a42f6b9f59ePost:e226ccd9-e466-4576-be40-4421573f54a7">Re: To be pissed or not?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: To be pissed or not?! : 4 guys in total.  Two with their girls.  The other guy doesn't have a girlfriend or wife.  He is the one who owns the house that they are staying in.  He was looking forward to spending time with his friends - since no one has time any more.  He just got out of a relationship so was looking to hang with his guy friends. It totally changed the dynamic for the weekend.
    Posted by polim22[/QUOTE]

    At least your fiance and the single guy can hang out instead of being the 5th wheel.
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  • KateJ10KateJ10
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_to-be-pissed-or-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:17Discussion:02718cee-3d1a-452f-9296-4a42f6b9f59ePost:d4ca9b36-ca7f-4d06-adec-71f86fe31ab8">Re: To be pissed or not?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: To be pissed or not?! : At least your fiance and the single guy can hang out instead of being the 5th wheel.
    Posted by brilibby4[/QUOTE]

    <div>yep. I would actually be just super annoyed at the two couples who decided to screw with guys weekend, because it is a personal annoyance of mine when couples insist on doing basically everything together. </div>
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  • LetsHikeTodayLetsHikeToday member
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    Something similar happened to us. It's annoying and rude but I'd just use the weekend to enjoy alone time. 
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  • polim22polim22 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_to-be-pissed-or-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:02718cee-3d1a-452f-9296-4a42f6b9f59ePost:3b1f2fcc-86b0-4b78-bd37-96e749cd89b1">Re: To be pissed or not?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: To be pissed or not?! : yep. I would actually be just super annoyed at the two couples who decided to screw with guys weekend, because it is a personal annoyance of mine when couples insist on doing basically everything together. 
    Posted by KateJ10[/QUOTE]

    I am annoyed and I'm trying really hard not to be - but seriously, they couldn't let these guys go for three days without them?!  And - I am also ticked off that my fiance and I weren't even told - its like they didn't want me there or something.
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  • krose83013krose83013
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_snarky-brides_to-be-pissed-or-not?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:17Discussion:02718cee-3d1a-452f-9296-4a42f6b9f59ePost:3b1f2fcc-86b0-4b78-bd37-96e749cd89b1">Re: To be pissed or not?!</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: To be pissed or not?! : yep. I would actually be just super annoyed at the two couples who decided to screw with guys weekend, because it is a personal annoyance of mine when couples insist on doing basically everything together. 
    Posted by KateJ10[/QUOTE]

    I would be annoyed at those couples too. They didn't even mention it to the guy that own's the house? Very strange and rude. 
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  • michelleseanmichellesean
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    I would ask the SO's about it.  Maybe they had asked their guys to tell your fiance that SO's are welsome and the guys forgot.  I could totally see that.  It sucks that guys weekend was ruined and I also hate couple that have to do everything together.

    I have a friend (D) who lives in the same community (literally 3 doors down) from another friend (A).  A was having a party and D and I and other mutual friends were invited.  I had already made plans, but D didn't go because her hubby was working.  Seriously?   You know a bunch of people at the party but wont go because your H is working and can't go as well? 

    Lame.
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  • LeguLegu member
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    See, my xFI and I were always pretty much together, largely because 99.9 percent of our friends are the same people, although I'm closer to some and he to others. We never really did the girls/guys weekend thing, and usually if we were out socialising it was a case of "a bunch of us are headed here later, you guys coming?" Every now and then, I'd mention going out with certain people, and naturally ask if he was coming, and he'd make some excuse to stay behind, or, he'd say about meeting up with some people, and I'd tell him to go ahead an let me have the house to myself for a bit. It was nice to know we could go places together, but at the same time, have our time apart [we work together anyways, so a bit of space was sometimes appreciated, just so he could watch the football, or I could watch watch a girly film, etc]. If he told me a group of guys were getting together, I'd send him alone. And I certainly wouldn't dream of inviting myself along for an annual, known guys weekend. Even if he'd invited me to something of the sort, I'd not go... Guys means guys, right? I find it extremely rude of these women to go along. And even ruder that half the original party knew nothing about it.
    So, maybe things don't always go as planned... Maybe that's okay. I may be alone for now, but my baby boy is on his way, and I wouldn't change a thing.
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