Who's Paying?

lac1583 · May 2012

I was just curious of who is ending up with the bills for your weddings. Times have changed, people are getting married older, more split parents, etc.

BMcLeodTeam · May 2012

We got an 'engagement gift' from each side parents which was a monetary gift to use as we feel fit, and that has been put towards the wedding (could have chosen to save it for house hunting, etc but we made that choice). Besides that it is being paid by us.

volleygurl0306 · May 2012

My FILs gave us a fixed amount that works out to just under 1/3 of our budget (excluding my dress and a few little things and the HM). My parents bought my dress and those few little things I excluded (favors, a couple wine glasses for my centerpiece items that my mom wanted to get for me). The rest (including the HM) is us.

mamameech · May 2012

All us baby... we are in our early 30s and have a home/family and careers established.
Although I wouldn't complain if my dad wanted pay lol

rbwashington2012 · May 2012

FI and I are paying for the wedding. My dad has done two deposits for us when we didn't have the cash on us. So far we have been on such a strick budget to pay for everything that FI last night has started to say the "enough is enough" and "no" to anything that is not needed for the wedding. I thought maybe we should have programs and he started seeing me going nuts trying to write them out and get them ordered and shipping etc etc, and he said "enough is enough baby, if we didn't think of them in the first place, no need to have them." I am so glad he is snapping me back to reality on this wedding cause over the top is not us.

QueerFemme · May 2012

We are paying for everything. We are older (I'm 41, my fiance is 36)

I don't have a relationship with my family... my fiance's mom went dress shopping with me and unexpectedly gave me $300.00 towards my dress and has bought a few things here & there (cocktail napkins, placemats for the centerpieces, etc.) At one point, we were talking about budget and she was shocked at how much everything was costing... and she said "wow, do you have people helping you guys with these costs?" She forgot that I don't speak to my family... so, she told my fiance a week or so later... "I had no idea you two were paying for all of this yourselves. I'm going to find a way to give you guys some money". I don't know what will mean... but, most likely a couple hundred dollars. We will gladly take any help ... but, in a $10K budget... it won't make much of a dent.

Pologirl903 · May 2012

Me and my fiance are in our mid twenties. We have one daughter. We dont have careers yet so we dont have a lot of money. We gave my parents 2500 for the wedding and my parents bought my dress, veil, undergarments, my daughters fg dress, and have paid all the deposits so far. We did pay the photographer deposit and the cake deposit. His parents are giving us I think 3-4,000 towards the wedding. My parents are paying what ever is left to pay after all that money and ours goes towards the bill. We are also not having a honeymoon because we just went on a cruise for my grandparents 50th wedding anniv in feb. So we considered that our honeymoon. We will get a hotel room for 1 poss 2 nights after the wedding but thats it. So def a combo of all our our families and us are paying for the wedding.

lac1583 · May 2012

See, I'm 31 and my fiance is 35 and we have been paying for all our deposits, accessories, etc. but my parents keep telling me to keep track so they can pay use back. Like PP, we have a family and established careers and it just feels weird to have my dad pay for everything. I mean, I'll take him up on some things, but I just can't justify him buying my shoes, etc.

Fluffernut · May 2012

I am very grateful that it's a combination of my parents, his parents, and us that are paying. Each set of parents said these are the items we will cover and we are covering the rest. I really feel blessed.

DreamCLG7 · May 2012

we are in our late twenties. My parents are giving us a set amount, which is about half of our budget. My FIL has said that he is contributing, but I'm not exactly sure how much. So I basically am not counting on his money (I do all the budgeting for us) and then anything we get from home will just be a bonus.

gabriel0915 · May 2012

We were originally going to foot the whole bill. As we went along in the planning people offered to help with things. FI's parents are covering all food and drinks including the rehersal dinner. My dad is paying for half the venue, we paid the other half, photographer, along with a few other things. My mom doesn't have a lot of money so she is covering small things at a time (decor and such).

jessa1228 · May 2012

My parents are paying for all of the vendors and the venue. FFIL is paying for the rehearsal dinner. FI & I are covering the rest.

ErinW1912 · May 2012

My parents are paying for the wedding except for my dress (my mom paid half and I am paying the other half) and FIL are paying for rehersal dinner. My family is very traditional. I am paying for the diy and my accessories but my parents are paying for the vendors (except hair and makeup) and venue. I realize I am the exception these days and I know I am very fortunate that my parents are paying otherwise we would not be getting married for a few years.

butterflyroy78 · May 2012

Us. FI's family gave us $500 last time (FI called off the wedding), but as far as I am concerned, that was a part of what I lost when he cancelled the wedding. Their son, their money went first! Is that wrong? LOL!

Laur110 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_whos-paying?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:767f7fbc-75f2-47d3-8d37-5dc138d152ecPost:c275ecdd-3dc7-45f3-bca6-6c58f561f36e">Re: Who's Paying?</a>:
[QUOTE]My parents are paying for all of the vendors and the venue. FFIL is paying for the rehearsal dinner. FI & I are covering the rest.
Posted by jessa1228[/QUOTE]

Ditto Jessa, except my parents are paying for the rehearsal dinner.

Sosteadilygo · May 2012

My parents are paying around 70% and we are paying the rest.

Katiesue04 · May 2012

My parents and his parents are paying some and we are footing the rest.

Kello4221 · May 2012

I said us because we are paying for most of it. FILs gave us a set amount and its actually going to cover almost 1/3 of our budget. My parents aren't able to contribute, but I know when it's closer they are going to try and do whatever they can.

My parents feel really guilty about not being able to financially help, but I'm seriously okay with it. They helped pay for a lot of my costs while I was in college and now I have a career where I out-earn each of them so it seems fair that I cover these costs.

mspurr · May 2012

I said us as well because we are paying for the majority. My parents are paying for 1/5 of the cost. FILs are paying for the rehearsal dinner but we are having to go super cheap.

MrsReynolds12 · May 2012

FI and I are in our early twenties and we are paying for about 2/3rds of the wedding ourselves and our parents are contributing the rest. Our budget is 16k and our parents are contributing around 8k or 9k combined.

morenachica110 · May 2012

My parents are divorced and my dad very, very generously is paying for most of the wedding. FI's mom really wanted to pay for RD and my mom put a couple hundred towards my dress. FI and I are putting up the rest. We've paid for most of the decor, the invites, rings, HM, attire, alterations, and things like that.

meagandal · May 2012

We are paying for about a third. My parents are covering the rest. We wanted to be about 50/50 but with FI losing his job we are cutting things pretty close and we've had to cancel the honeymoon. FI's family had once offered to help but no mention of it since, I am not counting on anything from them, relations with them are a bit strained currently.

celticmyss · May 2012

My father is paying for about 2/3 of the wedding and I am paying for the rest. FH is paying for most of the honeymoon.

smartlypretty · May 2012

We are REALLY REALLY lucky that our families have stepped in to help us out, or we wouldn't really be having the wedding that we are having. My parents are paying for the reception dinner (which includes all the food, open bar, rentals, cake, etc) which is over half of the budget. FI's parents gave us money to pay for the photog, flowers, DJ, officiant, and quartet which was SUPER generous of them. My grandmother paid for my attire- dress, slip, head piece, alterations as our wedding gift. FI's aunt and uncle gifted us our honeymoon to Europe. We are VERY lucky. We just need to cover invitations, our wedding bands, obviously our attendant/parents gifts, hair and makeup for the bridal party, and odds and ends like crap I buy for around the reception. I think we will spend only about 3,000 dollars.

prettypictures · May 2012

We are paying ourselves with some help from the fam..

My dad gave us $1,000, but then my car broke down and half went to cab rides, a tow truck, and fixing the car.. eek.

My grandma paid for most of my dress and she's buying my bouquet... she also bought the bridesmaid gifts because she found a great sale on some necklaces on one of those A Deal a Day websites. She's also buying the corsages for the mom's, grandmas, etc.

My mom is making the cake (she's a professional cake decorator - so I can have any cake I want for free... yessssss)

she is also going to do the catering so the only cost is food... and she's helping with that cost..

My fiancee's step dad is paying for the rehearsal dinner (his parents are both passed away).

kwortman80 · May 2012

FI and I are paying for the wedding, though the only way we've been able to save as much as we have is because we're living rent free in a building his parents own. His mom/parents bought my dress, and wants to buy me nice jewelry for the wedding. My parents told us how much they plan to give us as a wedding present, and if we needed it for paying off wedding costs we could use it that way. We're trying to keep our hands off of it and use it to start a house downpayment fund.

We're in our early thirties, and are very fortunate to have both good jobs, and a lot of breaks that have made saving money relatively easy. This stuff is EXPENSIVE.

hollyweenOR · May 2012

My parents have very generously given us a fixed amount and we're paying the rest. We would've happily paid 100% but it was something they'd set aside a long, long, loooong time ago- I'm 38! I think they were happy I was finally getting married.

The Fords · May 2012

My parents gave us some money towards it probably about anough to cover 1/3 of the reception costs (catering& alcohol) Other then that its all us. We have had a few people give money for a few things here and there . It has been a long money saving road but I feel its worth it !!

kroot87 · May 2012

I'm in my mid-20s, FI is late 30s. We're paying for about 30% (DJ, photographer, flowers, invitations, and other small stuff), my parents are paying for the other 70% (my dress, the cake, and all the reception costs). My FILs offered to pay for the rehearsal dinner, but we decided to just do pizza and beer after the rehearsal, so instead they're paying for accommodations and a limo for some of their family members, which I think is pretty cool of them.

danigirl7181 · May 2012

FI and I are paying for the wedding ourselves. My parents gave us $1,000 that went towards the wedding and FI parents are holding the wedding at their farm. FMIL is doing all the alterations on my dress, 7 bridesmaids, and our daughter FG dress. They planted pumpkins, Indian corn, and gourds at their farm and will keep an eye on them. FIs family is more of the crafty type, so they are helping with the details. FSILs helped with invites and are helping put bouquets together. FIs isn't giving us money but they are saving us a ton by helping with DIY projects.

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