First off: I have always heard wearing white to a wedding that's not yours is a big no-no and I've never done it, but wasn't sure on this....
My FMIL went dress shopping this past weekend. I got a text message from my future sis in law, asking what the wedding colors were. I said black and gold, bridesmaid's dresses are black with harvest gold sashes and my dress is champagne. (FMIL and sis in law have both seen it).
We go to dinner Saturday night over at the in-laws house and FMIL tells me she wants me to see her dress. When she pulled the bag off, I thought my stomach hit my shoes. It is EXACTLY the same color as my wedding dress. It even slightly resembles my dress. I said nothing, nodded and told her it was very pretty.
I know I can't dictate what people not in the wedding party are wearing but it feels like she did this BIG TIME on purpose. She's a very 'unique' person and has basically made this wedding planning deal a LOT more stressful than it probably should be so I'm already at wits end with her but I've never said anything to her. Just grinned and beared it.
Guess I just needed to vent. I don't know what else I could possibly do about the situation other than 'grin and bear it'.