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Role for 9yr old daughter

MrsSloopMrsSloop member
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This is my second marriage and FI's 1st.  I am looking for suggestions for a role for my 9yr old daughter.  I don't want her to be a junior bridesmaid or flower girl. Has anyone seen a cool way a son or daughter was incorporated into the wedding?
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Re: Role for 9yr old daughter

  • mma3mma3
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    edited December 2011
    I have a 9 yr old daughter as well :)  When FI and I started planning our wedding we asked her what role she would like (this of course after explaining everything about a wedding) and she had originally decided that she wanted to be a flower girl.  At first I was concerned that she would get bored and become difficult to deal with (at times I still am) However, she is the highlight of my life and I couldn't imagine her not being a special part.  We have since moved her into the JR bridesmaid role now that my 2 soon-to-be stepchildren are going to be there.  I am not sure why you are against her being either a JRBM or a flower girl, but I would ask her what role she would like.  She is old enough....
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  • MrsSloopMrsSloop member
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    edited December 2011
    Not against her really being either I was just wondering if there was something more personal that people have done.  She is actually a junior bridesmade in my sisters wedding and I was thinking of having her do something different in mine.
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  • right1thistimeright1thistime member
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    edited December 2011
    She could be your "girl of honor"  or some such thing.  ~Donna
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  • LesPaulLesPaul member
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    edited December 2011
    She doesn't have to be 'junior'; she can be a BM.  I like the 'girl or honor' idea too.
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  • melissamc2melissamc2 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm having my children be the "children of the bride," and not putting any pressure on them to "do" anything.  They are all very thankful for that, even though they are very outgoing, because they want to enjoy it all.

    I know I'm one of the few NOT putting the kids "in" the wedding in some form, but we're all very happy with the set-up we have and they can't wait to sit back and watch it all happen without having a role to play.

    It's always an option.
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  • MikesAngieMikesAngie member
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    edited December 2011
    My future step-daughter is currently 17 and will be days away from 18 when we say our vows, so this probably doesn't apply.  But we decided that she would walk into the ceremony with her dad while they are both being escorted by his mother.  She will be able to get ready with my ladies and hang out with me before the ceremony. She will stand with her dad during the ceremony.

    You could have your daughter escort you into the ceremony and stand with you while you exchange your vows.
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  • Sue-n-KevinSue-n-Kevin member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with the prior posters who recommended you ask her what she'd like. Explain what all the people involved in a wedding mean......... many kids don't know.

    My daughter will be 16 when we marry. Even though I have 2 friends my age, that I've known for over 30 years  also as BM, she will be my "maid of honor". She understands she can't sign the marriage license as a witness, but in every other way, she will be the person I expect to be the most important of my BM. There are several reasons for this that I won't go into detail on, but suffice to say she & I are close, and need to be closer. I know my "adult" friends won't mind.

    If I remember my daughter at 9 years of age, it's a very gawky "pre-teen" time. Not a "little" kid, but a child more than a teen. If there are no "age appropriate" males for her to be escorted by, just let her be alone as she walks down the aisle in front of you.

    Good luck.
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  • MrsSloopMrsSloop member
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    edited December 2011
    She really wants to been in it. Does not want to be a flower girl. I like the girl of honor idea!  That is cute and exactly what I was looking for!  Thanks girls!
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  • comptontcomptont member
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    edited December 2011
    My 7yr old daughter is going to walk me down the aisle.  I can't see my dad doing it for a second time so my daughter andI thought this would be special.
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  • superjules916superjules916 member
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    edited December 2011

    We are having his 12 (will be 13) year old do the unity candle celebration as the representative of his family as FI's mom passed away two years ago.

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