Upset with the bridal party
After hearing awful stories, I never thought I would be in this position. My MOH and one out of 2 of my bridesmaids have been there through everything with me, for over 10 years. So, without question I asked them to be in my bridal party. With only 53 days until my wedding they haven't done anything. I asked them to set up appointments for their dresses (and offered to go with them)... they said they wold and never did.
In January they asked my mom for help throwing my bridal shower and then ignored any types of contact my mom tried to have from there on with them and I ended up never having a bridal shower.
When I ask them questions or opinions about certain things in the wedding- they don't answer. And my bachelorette party is this weekend (My second bridesmaid had planned all by herself, because they ignored all her calls about it) and the other 2 said they wouldn't be home from the beach in time to make it. What do I do?? I love them, but they're really hurting my feelings.
Re: Upset with the bridal party
I would def say something - don't go bridezilla but be sturn and let them know that they're hurting your feelings and expected more from them because of your 10 plus year friendship.
Have they always been like this? If yes, did you really expect them to change just for your wedding? You've been friends with them for over ten years so only you can answer that question.
Just give them the absolute last day that they need to order their dress. If they miss the deadline then they've officially removed themselves from the wedding party.
[QUOTE]Jordan I don't think you read everything there, they DIDN'T order their dresses, big problem with only 50+ days to go! <strong>And MOH is definitely required to throw the shower and bachelorette party! </strong>Craziqt, I'm extremely sorry this is happening to you! You're 2nd BM deserves a lot of praise. I would let the other ones know they're stressing you out, not having their dresses is unacceptable and something needs to change. It may be too late for a shower but that's ok, just make sure they don't screw up your wedding day, too!
Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>No, she isn't. </div><div>
</div><div>All a birdesmaid HAS to do is show up on time, sober, in the dress and smile for the pics.</div><div>
</div><div>That is <u>all</u> a BM has to do.</div><div>
</div><div>As for them not having their dresses yet, just tell them the final day to order. If they don't, then they have removed themselves from the BP. </div>
[QUOTE]Jordan I don't think you read everything there, they DIDN'T order their dresses, big problem with only 50+ days to go! <strong>And MOH is definitely required to throw the shower and bachelorette party! </strong>Craziqt, I'm extremely sorry this is happening to you! You're 2nd BM deserves a lot of praise. I would let the other ones know they're stressing you out, not having their dresses is unacceptable and something needs to change. It may be too late for a shower but that's ok, just make sure they don't screw up your wedding day, too!
Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]
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</div><div>No, she isn't. </div><div>
</div><div>All a birdesmaid HAS to do is show up on time, sober, in the dress and smile for the pics.</div><div>
</div><div>That is <u>all</u> a BM has to do.</div><div>
</div><div>As for them not having their dresses yet, just tell them the final day to order. If they don't, then they have removed themselves from the BP. </div>
[QUOTE]Jordan I don't think you read everything there, they DIDN'T order their dresses, big problem with only 50+ days to go! And MOH is definitely required to throw the shower and bachelorette party! Craziqt, I'm extremely sorry this is happening to you! You're 2nd BM deserves a lot of praise. I would let the other ones know they're stressing you out, not having their dresses is unacceptable and something needs to change. It may be too late for a shower but that's ok, just make sure they don't screw up your wedding day, too!
Posted by Jinxed329[/QUOTE]
<div>No, no, and no. They can still figure out the dress situation, even if it comes to picking up a couple of dresses from a department store. And the MOH <em>traditionally</em> is in charge of the shower and bachelorette party. These things are not required. Period. OP needs to chill out. She has more important things to worry about, like the next chapter of her life starting.</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Upset with the bridal party : No, no, and no. <strong>They can still figure out the dress situation, even if it comes to picking up a couple of dresses from a department store. </strong>And the MOH traditionally is in charge of the shower and bachelorette party. These things are not required. Period. OP needs to chill out. She has more important things to worry about, like the next chapter of her life starting.
Posted by JordanF13[/QUOTE]
Sounds like the OP decided on dresses but the BMs are not ordering them.
The BMs laziness and lateness in ordering should not become unnecessary stress on the bride in finding new dresses off the rack. I don't understand how grown adults can accept a responsibility but not fulfill it.
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Upset with the bridal party : Sounds like the OP decided on dresses but the BMs are not ordering them. The BMs laziness and lateness in ordering should not become unnecessary stress on the bride in finding new dresses off the rack. I don't understand how grown adults can accept a responsibility but not fulfill it.
Posted by JoanE2012[/QUOTE]
<div>Agreed. This should be considered a last resort but frankly if they're unable to order the dresses in time, it's on them.</div>