People inviting themselves

Re: People inviting themselves

• LeiselEB member

  

  June 2012

  That happened when we first got engaged, but died down. Try talking about the wedding less, and don't talk about it at all with people who aren't invited. 

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• egm900 member

  

  June 2012

  My mother went to her aunt's birthday party recently and distant relatives asked about my siblings and I, and when she said I had graduated and was engaged they point blank asked if they were invited to the wedding.  She was totally thrown off guard.

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• klwpaz member

  

  June 2012

  A (not so close) friend of mine texted me the day she found out we were engaged to say "Congratulations!!" Next text: "By the way, am I invited?" Obviously we had not even begun to think about the guest list at that point.
  
  Since we've sent out actual invitations, we've recieved two back adding extra guests along with the originally invited people.
  
  Also, FI's grandmother's cousin (who is close with his grandmother but not with us at all) asked us what we wanted for a wedding gift although he was not invited...
  
  Leisel: Not talking about the wedding may help in some cases, but for what it's worth, we had not discussed anything wedding related with any of the people mentioned above.

  

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• ElisabethJoanne member

  

  June 2012

  People will assume whether you talk about the wedding or not. It helps to answer wedding questions as vaguely as possible. For example, to people not invited, when they ask, "When's the wedding?" I say "The fall." If they're invited, I say, "November [date]."

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• BMSawa

  

  June 2012

  So when people send the RSVP back and add extra people, what do you end up doing???

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• kreskino member

  

  June 2012

  I am adding the number of seats they are allowed to the RSVP card

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• aimers1525 member

  

  June 2012

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_people-inviting-themselves-1?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:14010726-4650-4d4a-a554-1c62e3bf1626Post:f6fb2073-2cc8-4d4d-ac7b-3a7ea0ce9259">Re: People inviting themselves</a>:
  [QUOTE]So when people send the RSVP back and add extra people, what do you end up doing???
  Posted by BMSawa[/QUOTE]
  Call them and polietly say that unfortunately, the invite was only for Mr. and Mrs. Jones and you hope they understand. 

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• missteacherlady member

  

  June 2012

  This has happened to me, and I was so caught off-guard!  I am just saying politely that it is a small wedding, which is the truth, and, as others have said, I am avoiding talking about it.  However, even with avoiding talking about it, people see my engagement ring and assume they are invited.  It is weird!

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• jdtsah member

  

  June 2012

  So glad to find this!  I direct several choirs in town, and invited all the people in one community group, as I am close to all of them.  However, I did not invite all from another choir I direct.  Some of the singers were talking after rehearsal, assuming all were invited.  Subsequently, I got an email from one (that I did not invite - this is a same-sex ceremony and I was not sure where she and her husband stood on that issue), INVITING HERSELF?!  Wow.  I was shocked.  And don't know what to do.  Do I reply to the email?  Do I just send an invite? 

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