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June 2012 Weddings
doeie04
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Tips on how to get and stay married.
Very simple ones, but biggies!
Thought I would share.
http://ideas.time.com/2011/12/08/how-to-get-and-stay-marrie/?iid=op-article-mostpop1
Thought I would share.
http://ideas.time.com/2011/12/08/how-to-get-and-stay-marrie/?iid=op-article-mostpop1
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Re: Tips on how to get and stay married.
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[QUOTE]#3 about the sex is interesting...
Posted by Zimsgirl26[/QUOTE]
Except that I think it's both too broad and too narrow to cover what Dan Savage truly means when he says couples should be GGG. I'll try to find his definition to post here. I'm a big fan of his work and his advice column, and I highly recommend it! You can Google "Savage Love" for his weekly advice column :)
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tips on how to get and stay married. : Except that I think it's both too broad and too narrow to cover what Dan Savage truly means when he says couples should be GGG. I'll try to find his definition to post here. I'm a big fan of his work and his advice column, and I highly recommend it! You can Google "Savage Love" for his weekly advice column :)
Posted by DrPB2b13[/QUOTE]
Ok because I've never heard of him <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-embarassed.gif" border="0" alt="Embarassed" title="Embarassed" /> I just thought it was interesting be open to positions or whatever it said
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[QUOTE]Great article. So simple, but so true! And FI also says things like Shannon's FI when I tell him he is hot or he has a cute butt. It is always "I know!' LOL
Posted by niecie_jeff[/QUOTE]
<div>Hahaha gotta love guys! So modest!</div>
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tips on how to get and stay married. : Except that I think it's both too broad and too narrow to cover what Dan Savage truly means when he says couples should be GGG. I'll try to find his definition to post here. I'm a big fan of his work and his advice column, and I highly recommend it! You can Google "Savage Love" for his weekly advice column :)
Posted by DrPB2b13[/QUOTE]
I looked him up and it was talking about how threesomes and affairs aren't always bad things.... I closed it because I didn't think I should be looking it up on my work computer. haha. Is that what he is all about, or did I just run into some random thing he was discussing?
PS~ For the record, threesomes and affairs are not my thing, but if it works for you, go for it. I'm not judging. :)
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Tips on how to get and stay married. : I looked him up and it was talking about how threesomes and affairs aren't always bad things.... I closed it because I didn't think I should be looking it up on my work computer. haha. Is that what he is all about, or did I just run into some random thing he was discussing? PS~ For the record, threesomes and affairs are not my thing, but if it works for you, go for it. I'm not judging. :)
Posted by doeie04[/QUOTE]
AFFAIRS?!? Seriously?!? I don't think I could ever forgive FI if he had an affair. My mom still remembers when she was doing her marriage prep in the Catholic church the priest asked if my dad cheated on her would she forgive him and my mom said no and the priest basically told her that was the wrong answer because you should forgive. My mom was like no he broke a vow. I agree
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[QUOTE]I read Savage Love and no, that is not all he writes about and last week's column, without the context of the past few weeks of columns, looks bad. One of Dan's main arguments is that couples in "monogamish" relationships can be happy an successful. But both partners have to mutually agree on terms and conditions ( and it's not "cheating" if you agree to have an open relationship. Last week's column was suppose to be reader stories of successful "monogamish" relationships though I think he chose several stories poorly as they were not proper examples (ie the guy who never got caught in his affair).
Posted by daria24[/QUOTE]
Thanks for clearing that up! I wasn't sure so I just wanted to site where I got the info from. :) Maybe when I get home I will look into it more. I don't want to get in trouble for searching stuff I shouldn't at work. haha
His basis is pretty much that it doesn't matter if you've been together for three days or thirty years, you need to remain open and honest in your communication about your physical and emotional needs. The idea behind being Good, Giving, and Game is that you are a) willing to commit to improving your ability to please your partner through communication and action; b) willing to give your partner the best that you have to give them, and c) willing and able to listen to your partner's needs and desires, regardless of how bizarre, taboo, or 100% out there they are, and fulfill them within reason. Essentially, be open minded, and don't judge your partner for having fantasies or desires you may otherwise deem "weird." You don't have to act on all of them, but discussion about them is an absolute must.
He does field a lot of really, really bizarre and gross questions, but I do highly recommend reading through the archives of his column; even for straight, decently vanilla couples, it's very eye-opening and he has some great advice that you will not get anywhere else.
[QUOTE]Yeah, the whole threesomes and affairs thing from last week is most decidedly NOT all he is about. The context of that particular article is the fact that monogamy does NOT work for everyone, as well as the fact that you often just don't know who has or has not been through affairs, threesomes, etc. based on the fact that they're still married or together. Just as there are many people who have experienced affairs that ruined their relationships, there are also couples who have experienced affairs that made their relationships stronger. His basis is pretty much that it doesn't matter if you've been together for three days or thirty years, you need to remain open and honest in your communication about your physical and emotional needs. The idea behind being Good, Giving, and Game is that you are a) willing to commit to improving your ability to please your partner through communication and action; b) willing to give your partner the best that you have to give them, and c) willing and able to listen to your partner's needs and desires, regardless of how bizarre, taboo, or 100% out there they are, and fulfill them within reason . Essentially, be open minded, and don't judge your partner for having fantasies or desires you may otherwise deem "weird." You don't have to act on all of them, but discussion about them is an absolute must. He does field a lot of really, really bizarre and gross questions, but I do highly recommend reading through the archives of his column; even for straight, decently vanilla couples, it's very eye-opening and he has some great advice that you will not get anywhere else.
Posted by DrPB2b13[/QUOTE]
Sweet! I will look into it when I get home tonight!
I love all these. FI and I flirt all the time, I love it. We have are own little things that no one knows what we are doing but it's our little suttle way of saying love you.