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A bit of a situation- need advice

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I have two best friends.  One is my man of honor.  He's my oldest friend- we've been friends literally as long as I can remember and is the closest thing I ever had to a sibling (I'm an only child).  
My other best friend and I met in college.  She moved to LA last year to pursue a musical career.  This is a really hard thing to do and you have to always be available to do whatever may come along, so I've always been prepared that although she says she will absolutely fly back to MA from CA for the wedding, if some great opportunity comes along, she can't refuse it.  She and I talked it over and I suggested that I may just have a man of honor with no bridesmaid's because I didn't want to put pressure on her with everything she has going on, but I wouldn't want to have bridesmaid's if she couldn't be one.  She said that was probably a better idea because her future was so uncertain.

Even though I've flat out refused this several times from a few different people, my man of honor is insisting on throwing me a bachelorette party probably in April.  I just don't want to have a bachelorette party without my other best friend, but she doesn't have the money or time to fly out for that party in April and then come back again in May for the wedding.

My man of honor wanted to throw a combination bachelorette/bachelor party for me and FI since he's great friends with both of us.  FI's suggestion was to have the party in... Vegas!  I was like "NOOO", but he said then my best friend could come from LA easily and my man of honor would totally be up for it (yes he would).  We have a couple other friends that I'm sure love to go to Vegas with us, but I just think Vegas is too much.

I'm not sure what advice I'm asking for here.  It would be rude to ask my man of honor to do Vegas anyway, right?  Does anyone else think Vegas is way too much?  Any suggestions about getting man of honor to understand why I don't want a bach party?

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Re: A bit of a situation- need advice

  • zubrod1zubrod1
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    We're doing Vegas for ours, but we live in San Diego so it's a bit closer for us.  If people are okay with it why not do Vegas :)
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  • DivaJenDDivaJenD member
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    You said yourself that MOH would be up for it, so I don't think it's rude to ask him... The way I see it, you're only doing this once (or for those married before, this is the last time you're doing this. haha)... so why not?? If you do Vegas, other best friend can most likely go, and if your other friends that you want to have there can afford it as well, then what's the down side? I get the impression you'd be game, but you're concerned about putting people out... which is a legit concern, so it really just depends on what kind of read you get from others... If they can afford it and want to go too, then have fun!! :)
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  • Danny&Mel2003Danny&Mel2003 member
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    Maybe swing the idea by him and see what he says ... I went to Vegas with FI back in 2009 flight, hotel for 2 people including insurance package for 6 nights was $950 altogether. That was for 6 nights 7 days ... only going 3 nights would be cheaper

    I think if financially it could be done and your man of honor is cool do it!!! I loved Vegas if money weren't an issue I'd totally do it!!!

    Hotels are pretty cheap even for on the strip!!!
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  • rswansrswans
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    You can always suggest it and see what he (and anyone else that would be attending) thinks. I know the wedding I was in this past weekend, the MOH had originally proposed Vegas, but it wasn't financially viable for the majority of us, so we ended up doing something else.
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  • melb2013melb2013 member
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    FI and I talked it over and we decided we'd rather spend that money on a honeymoon than on Vegas for bach parties.  FI would really like to do a combination bach party, so I guess this is all about compromise.  We're not going to do Vegas, but we'll do a Boston thing and most likely my best friend from LA won't be able to attend.  Apparently FI's "best woman" and my man of honor are going to plan something together- nothing crazy because I didn't really want this whole thing in the first place, but FI does.  We'll see how it all pans out later.

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  • SSaltzman87SSaltzman87 member
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    Sounds like you guys found a solution :-)

    I was gonna say that considering the situation, Vegas wouldn't be the craziest idea lol!
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  • deviousmusedeviousmuse member
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    I've done the combination bach/ette weekend in Vegas for friends' wedding years ago -- it was fun all doing a cocktail hour before and then splitting up and trying to avoid each other for a few hours!

    We're trying to do my 'ette party in Vegas, as that's where I'm from, and the last time my MOH and I were there together was for a marathon and not much fun. My sister (other MOH) also hasn't been there since she's turned 21, so it will also be a mini b-day party for her.

    But all that said, we're going to do something bigger locally so I can have all my girls out with me!
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