Memorial

Re: Memorial

• hj1479

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I am a huge music person, so one of my friends will be singing a song that will be dedicated to the memory of those who are no longer with us.  This will most likely be sung as guests are being seated...and we'll have a note in the program just stating the song's dedication.  We are also having a memory vase with a flower for each person who has passed away.

  

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• cgyvhu member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I've seen people do a table with pictures of those who passed away, a listing in a program for those who passed away, a moment of silence before the ceremony to remember those who are not there, and people leaving empty seats/flowers in memory of special loved ones who arent there.  

  
  

  IMO, it's nice to recognize those who have passed, but you want this to be a happy celebration, not a somber one.  I'd do maybe one thing in memory of those who passed, but too much could make everything a little gloomy.

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• CLW102409 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  DH's dad passed away about 2 years before we got married.  We had a memorial candle with some saying on it that was custom made from Etsy.  And during the ceremony, when we were doing the sign of the peace (catholic ceremony), when we gave our mothers a flower, we put a red rose on the pew where his dad would have been sitting. 
  
  We both lost are g'parents and some other close family members, but we figured we didn't want to be a downer by doing anything for them on a joyus occassion such as a wedding...but that was just us. 

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• pantherRN member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_pennsylvania-pittsburgh_memorial?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:116Discussion:d9ec8689-a84b-4f9d-800d-ec117651fb99Post:cf0f95ba-d506-4244-a833-a17a68712734">Re: Memorial</a>:
  [QUOTE] IMO, it's nice to recognize those who have passed, but you want this to be a happy celebration, not a somber one.  I'd do maybe one thing in memory of those who passed, but too much could make everything a little gloomy.
  Posted by mdphd[/QUOTE]
  
  I agree with this. We'll probably put a note in the programs and I think I'm also going to have three bouquet charms with photos of my grandmother and grandfather, FI's grandmother, and FI's grandfather.

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• KimWard

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  We had a moment of silence at the beginning of the ceremony, a special section in the programs, and a memorial candle lit at the reception (it was on the escort card table).

  
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• LilyWater09 member

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  In the week leading up to my wedding having the florist prepare a bouquet similar to the throw bouquet to place on my grandmothers grave with an invitation to my wedding.    I plan to have a draped white cloth with a picture of my grandmother with a flower that matches my bouquet in the pew next to my mother & grandfather. 
  
  I know you miss your family but I agree with pp that your wedding is a celebration of your future life together.  Group the memorials together for one moment of remembrance in your ceremony.  So not to take away from your moment but honor them, if you have a picture table (in general or memorial) have them be your favorite pictures of them with you, if possible. 
  
  Incorporate one of the things that reminds you most of them in your day - i.e. oatmeal cookies, old milwaukee, something blue. 

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• sarilynnep

  

  March 2011 edited December 2011

  I agree with previous posts- do something that is memoriable to you, but something that won't bring sadness the day of your wedding.
  
  My stepsister got married yesterday and she honored her father (who passed away a few years ago and who she was closer to than anyone else in the world at the time) with lighting a candle with his name on it during the ceremony with her brother (who walked her down the aisle in their dad's place). They also did the father/daughter dance together and played a song their dad loved. It was absolutely beautiful and definitely an emotional moment. But this is the most I have ever seen someone do for a deceased loved one, because it was a bride's father who was sorely missed and his lack of presence was felt by everyone at the wedding.

  

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