not sure how to word our invitations

Re: not sure how to word our invitations

• eddiesgirl11 member

  

  July 2012

  Im just a bit confused with how you worded the above... your having a ceremony on the beach then a reception afterwards ( of dinner) which you will not be paying for.  If thats correct Id suggest something like..
  Please join us for dinner... lets go dutch.. or something.. Sorry I cant come up with anything better.
  
  GL planning

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• rslilly1

  

  July 2012

  How about...
  
  "The bride and groom will be celebrating with dinner at ___ following the ceremony.  Please feel free to join." 
  
  and if you think people are kinda dumb, you can add "at your own expense." 

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• BrittRN+

  

  July 2012

  Honestly it's really bad etiquette to invite guests to a wedding and not even provide them with a meal.

  
  

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• Winnertag1 member

  

  July 2012 edited July 2012

  You have to host some sort of reception after your wedding - it doesnt have to be elaborate - maybe drinks and h'orderves or cake and punch. It's rude not to host anything or make your guests pay for any part of the festivities. There is no not rude way of coming out and saying that guests will have to pay for their meals. 

  
  
  

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• kymalibustacey

  

  July 2012

  Agreed you have to have something even it's just wine and cheese....There is no way way to say buy your own dinner but yet invite people....Just saying....

  

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• ChiGirl2013 member

  

  July 2012

  If you're not paying for people, don't bother inviting them.  That's beyond tacky and will make you look like a terrible person - "Oh, come have dinner with us and bring us a card/gift, but you're not important enough for us to pay for you."
  
  If you don't want to host a full reception lunch or dinner, do something informal like a backyard BBQ the following day/weekend, or even just cake & punch or a dessert reception - those are easy to DIY and you can do it inexpensively if you bake or know people who do.
  
  But no.... do not invite people to a restaurant unless you're picking up the tab.

  
  58 invited | 17 love destination weddings
  20 can't make it | 21 don't know what to do with a RSVP card
  RSVP Deadline: March 8th
  

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• kayteak

  

  July 2012

  I agree, there are lots of ways to get around the huge price tag.  Like ChiGirl2013 said,
  
  "If you don't want to host a full reception lunch or dinner, do something informal like a backyard BBQ the following day/weekend, or even just cake & punch or a dessert reception - those are easy to DIY and you can do it inexpensively if you bake or know people who do."
  
  I'm sure that's part of ettiquette 101, kinda like who you should NEVER mention giving gifts at showers or engagement parties, not only is it too expectant, but it just looks bad and will put a bad taste in your guests' mouth.  Sorry!!

  

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• dandelionsgirl

  

  July 2012

  The reception is a thank you to the guest for attending the ceremony.  Guests should not have to pay.  

  

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