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Ceremony Here and Reception There

Hello Everyone, I just got engaged 5/11/12 but have been kinda planning before on the ceremony and the reception.
My grandfather is a reverend in Hawaii, and I've promised him that he can marry me. No problem there.
I'm thinking a close family ceremony at my grandfather's house with mom, dad/stepmom, FI mom/dad, and my brother and his GF. The ceremony will take place on the tentative date of 7/11/13 (lucky numbers and anniversary date). Then later in California have the reception.
This way all I'd need to save for is possible flights to Hawaii, and I already have a timeshare, so lodging should be covered.

Any comments and/or idea are greatly appreciated.

Re: Ceremony Here and Reception There

  • pkontkpkontk member
    500 Comments
    You should host some sort of small reception directly after the wedding for those who travelled to see you get married.  A light lunch or cake and punch are fine depending on the time of day if you are worried about budgets.

    When you get back from Hawaii, you may host a party for your larger group of friends and family, and display wedding pictures, but there shouldn't be a 'bridal party', frouffy white dress, or cake cutting.
  • Your plans sound quite similar to what my husband and I did.  Small (super small, immediate family ONLY, less than 15 people) wedding ceremony is a fun place followed by a large party when we got home.

    As long as your wedding ceremony list is exactly what you listed there and your party is more than, say, 70 people, you are totally fine etiquette-wise.  Be honest on your reception invitations that you are already married (we put "The couple married privately on 5/5/11 in Southhampton, Bermuda.")  I wore my dress for about an hour and we did cake cutting.  Otherwise, it was just a grand old party!
  • Yeah but some will understand about family only.

     
  • kaos16kaos16 member
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    I'm a touch confused.  Why is this being described as a destination wedding by PPs and not a private ceremony, thus making a later reception proper etiquette-wise?
  • To clarify, all of my friends are in California. My family (Dad, Stepmom, Grandma, & Grandpa) is in Hawaii, my mom is in Washington, and his parents are in California also.

    Thanks to all.
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