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Deceased Father - Help!

MarkandCassieMarkandCassie
in Texas-Dallas and Ft. Worth
I have decided that my Uncle will walk me downt he aisle, but I'm having trouble with the wording for when the pastor says "who gives this woman". Does my mother say she does? Does she say "Her father and I", even though he's gone? Does my Uncle say "her mother and I", even though he's not my father.  I'm sure there is really no wrong answer, but I'm just looking for the most politically correct way to put it.
Thanks for the help!
-Confused Bride
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Re: Deceased Father - Help!

  • professorscienceprofessorscience member
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    Is it necessary that your pastor say this?  There was no such exchange in my ceremony.  Technically the days of the bride "being given" by her family are long gone.  No one is "giving you" to your husband.  You are entering into this marriage of your own free will, thus giving yourself to your husband.

    If you want it to be included, whoever is responding to the pastor could just say, "Her family," maybe.
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  • nextrightthingnextrightthing member
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    Ditto pp. Skip it.
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  • crash2729crash2729 member
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    If you want to include it I would say "Her family and I" or something.
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  • dubirddubird
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    We didn't say anything, my dad just escorted me down, gave me a kiss on the cheek, and then sat down.  I didn't want him to 'give' me away; I'm my own person.  So, we just did the escort and it worked out.  It was actually really sweet, we did the rehersal and he just walked me down, but when we were waiting outside, he said "Now when we get up there, I'm going to give you a little kiss".  XD
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