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Non-traditional wedding officiant

Anyone have any ideas where I might locate a non-traditional Catholic officiant for an outdoor wedding? My fiance is a non-practicing Catholic and would like our wedding officiant to be someone of Catholic faith; however, I am not Catholic so we are not looking for a traditional Catholic ceremony. Some have told me it will be difficult to find someone to marry a Catholic and a non-Catholic, but I would really like to find someone if I could since it is important to my fiance. Any ideas where to even begin such a search?

Casseleu

Re: Non-traditional wedding officiant

  • edited December 2011
    First of all... A Catholic and a Non-Catholic can be married in the church so I don't see why this would pose a problem for a ceremony out of the church. I would maybe look for a retired priest for this duty. Some priest that work at hospital chapels are also available on Saturdays. Try your local dioceses for more info, they may be able to help you out. Here is the contact page for the DSM diocese.

    http://www.dmdiocese.org/contact-us.cfm
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  • cindycramcindycram member
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    edited December 2011
    I am in the same boat as Leutzinger.  Please let me know if you find someone.
  • kwelder1kwelder1 member
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    edited December 2011
    OMG! I was in the SAME boat as you!!! My fiance was raised catholic, although he has not regularly attended mass since he graduated HS, and I was never brought up in a religious home. My fiance's parents really wanted him to have a catholic wedding, and so I agreed to join the catholic church... long story short, I'm attending classes with the deacon to obtain knowledge of the church... But.. I have just what your looking for! The best wedding officiant for you is named  Dean Bostian. He is VERY non-traditional. Yet he is catholic! He's a little quarky and definatly able to make the ceremony an enjoyable experience for your guests, and relaxing for you (at least he was that way when we met him! He always returns phone calls or e-mails, and has given me great ceremony ideas. He really works with you to create YOUR perfect ceremony. Offers all kinds of suggestions, and is a gem (if you ask me). Dont be thrown off by his appearence though. He is a big guy, in his late 30's(??) and has thick curly hair. But he has the personality that you definately want in a wedding officiant. I will give you his e-mail address, and you can contact him that way (I'm not sure if he'd want me posting his personal phone number out on internet). But just tell him that Kylee Welder (wedding date September 25, 2010) refered you to him. BTW- he's pretty affordable... were paying him $150.00. His e-mail is         mrbostian@hotmail.com
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  • kwelder1kwelder1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I forgot to mention that Dean is performing our wedding outdoors (at a winery). and we are not having a traditional catholic wedding ceremony. We will have 2 prayers in the ceremony (to please the FMIL and FFIL) but it will be quite a bit shorter than the traditional hour long+ catholic ceremony. We anticipate ours to run 25-30 mins at most. if you'd like, I can cut and paste a copy of our ceremony to show you some of the ideas that dean has given to me. Just let me know!
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  • leutzingerleutzinger member
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    edited December 2011
    That would be great! Thank you so much for your help, it sounds like he would be a great choice. I will definitely be contacting him in the near future. I look forward to seeing your future post! Congratulations and best wishes.

    Thanks again!
    Casseleu
  • kwelder1kwelder1 member
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    edited December 2011
    Wedding Events for Cibula/Welder Processional Begin Processional Music1. Seat groom's grandmother2. Seat bride's grandmother3. Seat groom's parents4. Seat bride's mother Michael and officiate will enter from the side and be standing under gazebo at five o’clock pm.The bridesmaids and groomsmen, followed by the flower girls and ring bearer, will make their way down the aisle to the front of the seated guests.(Bride's mother stands as signal for all to stand) Begin Wedding March Following the bridal party, the junior bride (Cameryn) will lead the bride (being escorted by her father) down the aisle. The three will stop just short of the rest of the group and allow the music to end.  The officiate will then begin.) (Officiate signals for standing guests to be seated.) MinisterWho gives this woman in marriage to this man?


    BRIDE’S FATHER: Her mother and I do.
     Initial Remarks MINISTER:Dearly beloved, we are gathered together here in the presence of God – and in the face of this company – to join together this man and this woman in holy matrimony. Since the beginning of time, man and woman have come before God, joining their lives and sharing their burdens and joys.  In the book of Genesis, of the Old Testament, after God had created Adam, He decided that Adam needed someone to share his life with.  But after looking among the animals for a mate, he found none suitable.  God then, while Adam slept, removed a rib and created Eve for Adam.  Upon looking at Eve, Adam said, “This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh, and she shall be called woman, for she was created from man.”  Two lives from one body, just as two lives become one with marriage.
    Marriage is the union of husband and wife in heart, body and mind. It is intended for their mutual joy – and for the help and comfort given on another in prosperity and adversity. But more importantly – it is a means through which a stable and loving environment may be attained.

    Through marriage, Michael and Kylee make a commitment together to celebrate their accomplishments– embrace their dreams – realize their hopes – and accept each other’s failures. Michael and Kylee will promise one another to aspire to these ideals throughout their lives together – through mutual understanding – openness – and sensitivity to each other.


    This relationship between Michael and Kylee stands for love, loyalty, honesty and trust, but most of all for friendship. Before they knew love, they were friends, and it was from this seed of friendship that is their destiny. Do not think that you can direct the course of love – for love, if it finds you worthy, shall direct you.
     Exchange of VowsBy: Frau Ava; circa 1160 MikeIn your eyes, I have found my home.In your heart, I have found my love.In your soul, I have found my mate.With you, I am whole, full, and alive,You make me laugh, you let me cry.You are my breath, my every heartbeat.I am yours.You are mine.Of this we are certain.You are lodged in my heart.The small key is lost.You will stay there forever. KyleeYou are my inspiration and my soul’s fire.You are the magic of my days,You help me laugh, you teach me love,You provide a safe place for me, unlike I’ve ever known.You free me to sing my own song.You are more of amazement to me, each day I rediscover you.You are my greatest love.I am yours.You are mine.Of this we are certain.You are lodged in my heart.The small key is lost forever.You will stay there forever. Exchange of Wedding Rings

    MINISTER:
         May I see the rings?  (The best man will lay the rings on the Bible)  Michael and Kylee, these rings will serve as a symbol of your love and devotion to one another.  As the ring is a circle without end, so should be your love to each other.  Let us pray: Heavenly Father, bless these rings,So that those who wear them may be ever faithful to one another,Remain in peace with each other,And live and grow old together in love.In your name we pray, Amen.

    (Handing ring to the Groom)
     MINISTER TO GROOM:

    Michael, in placing this ring on Kylee’s finger, repeat after me: Kylee, you are now consecrated to me as my wife from this day forward and I give you this ring as the pledge of my love and faithfulness, with this ring, I thee wed.



    (Handing ring to the Bride)


    MINISTER TO BRIDE:

    Kylee, in placing this ring on Michael’s finger, repeat after me: Michael, you are now consecrate to me as my husband from this day forward and I give you this ring as the pledge of my love and faithfulness, and with this ring, I thee wed. Pronouncement
    MINISTER:

    May you always share with each other the gifts of love – be one in heart and in mind – may you always create a home together that puts in your hearts – love – generosity and kindness.

    Michael and Kylee have consented together in marriage before this company of friends and family and declared their unity by giving and receiving a ring – are now joined.

    You have pronounced yourselves husband and wife but remember to always be each other’s best friend.

    What – therefore – God has joined together – let no man put asunder.
     

    Prayer

    Join with me as we ask God's blessing on this new formed family unit. Shall we pray?Eternal Father, creator, redeemer, lover of our souls, we now turn to you, and as the first act of this couple in their newly formed union. We ask you to protect their home. May they always turn to you for guidance, for strength, for provision, for direction. May they glorify you in the choices they make, in the ministries they involve themselves in, in all that they do. Use them to draw others to yourself, and let them stand as a testimony to the world of your faithfulness. We ask this in Jesus name, Amen

    Ladies and gentlemen, it is my pleasure to introduce to you Mr. and Mrs. Michael Cibula. Mike, you may now kiss your bride. Recessional Mike and Kylee make their way down the aisle.The bridal party follows behind.The parents of the newlyweds are close behind.
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  • kwelder1kwelder1 member
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    edited December 2011
    leutzinger -Sorry- it was really long, and I didnt get it to copy and paste right, but you can figure it out.
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